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Hi, y'all, OP here: You've given me a lot to think about, some good advice as well. When I was searching for the word about DH and time, the description that finally came to me was the word blind. And then I did a little reading and found that there are actually people who are time-blind...

I think ... clueless, rather than controlling. He honestly doesn't seem to understand that, for example, cooking dinner takes more than 15 minutes. But clueless isn't the right word either. unaware? disbelieving ? incredulous ? I'll have to think of a better way to describe it.

Oh, no. He's a lovely person who laughs at my jokes, has been my rock in tough times, and indulges my eccentricities as well. I just want to forestall the "you're home all day; you can do this ... my way " attitude ! (I think oldwizard had a thread with a similar issue; not sure how that...

No, he wanted me to quit long before I decided to. He just doesnt' seem to realize that other people have goals and schedules as well. It's as if he thinks that all my chores can be done in 30 minutes ... but he doesn't like time constraints put on his work... and that's why I'm worried that...

That's a smart idea. I should do that ... socks in a bag on the hanger. End of confusion.

Oh, quite the opposite. I call it a self-imposed erratic schedule. For example, one Saturday morning, about 12 years ago, I slept in. (very rare; I'm usually the early riser.) He had started tearing down cabinets in the kitchen...because we would have a renovation in a couple years and...

Nope. He likes his navy socks with certain clothes. Yes, really.

Nope; he's too busy here to have another family!

Yo, y'all, Checking in, between chores. To answer a lot of questions: late 50's, early 60's. DH loves having me home and was suggesting that I quit my job for a year or two before I actually did. (Nights and weekends were part of my schedule; highly disruptive to family life.) We have one...

Are you both retired? If so, how did you avoid the territorial conflicts? I still harass him about the time he insisted (hissy-fit level) that we needed a turkey baster in the kitchen -- during the years when we were vegetarians!

Oh, man, I wish that he would take more downtime on weekends. I said he was hard-working. Saturday, I got him to agree that we only had 3 goals for the weekend. IF we met those 3 goals, we'd be satisfied. It was a minor miracle, but we finished by 2pm Saturday. It was lovely weather. Tried...

Yes, from what I told you that would have been the most practical solution. More of the gory details: The first car is an RV, that I haven't ever driven, and probably never will drive. (It's his toy, not daily transportation.) Also, DH wanted to talk to the shop in detail about the...

what I really need is a robot-driver.

:laugh: BCG, that would get his attention for sure!

Oh, he scheduled on Tuesday, but he wasn't thrilled about it. My problem is how to stop the gradual assumption that I'll always adapt because I've "got so much free time." ... without needlessly starting WWIII.

First, let me say that DH is generous self-sacrificing extremely hard-working intelligent, and kind to animals. He does, however, have trouble seeing the other person's perspective. We've been married over 30 years, and ... I wouldn't trade him. I've recently retired. He wants to keep...

Oooh! Our library has it; I just put it on hold to pick up tomorrow.

Yep. I think that's a really healthy attitude!

Scuba, I think I have the same problem as you. {I know you can't tell tone over the internet... This is supposed to be sympathetic, not griping...} A lot of it comes down to personality type and upbringing. For example, we each took time off so we'd have a 4-day weekend over 4th of July...

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