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Hi all.
My son is a college sophomore at a school he seems to like, and was working towards a degree in mechanical engineering. He's been struggling.
Today in a phone call we seem to have arrived at the conclusion that mechanical engineering is probably not the right degree for him.
He isn't doing well in some of the core classes, isn't looking forward to some of the remaining core classes. He generally isn't happy and also seems very stressed out to me. He also says he doesn't have a very good idea of what mechanical engineers actually *do*, which makes it even more difficult for him to pursue it.
The stress in the phone call seemed to me to subside a fair amount once we started talking about alternative options and taking steps to investigate other choices.
I'm seeking input for (a) what other fields to consider, and (b) how to go about career counseling.
As far as (a) goes, here's what I know about him that might be relevant:
He's very smart and pretty well rounded (IB graduate, merit scholarship)
Naturally good at and inclined towards entrepreneur-type stuff - he's had several successful small businesses in high school
Has some leadership and teaching skills and ability
Loved his junior high tech class (took it and then was a teaching assistant)
Loves engineering competitions (like mousetrap cars, building bridges out of popsicle sticks) - he and his team won the freshman engineering contest at his school
Loved his CAD class and SolidWorks
Loves failure analysis stuff like the engineering disaster shows
Likes mechanical stuff like cars and watches and assembling computers
Happens to be tall, good-looking, charming, and personable
Wants to be "successful", which I think to him means having a respected career, an interesting job he likes, and being able to buy the stuff he wants (nice car, nice clothes, nice things in general).
ADHD but hates the meds so far
Does not like the "details" of the central part of mechanical engineering classes like thermo and physics
Did not think that going to Rolex watch school would be a good career type move - sees that more as a hobby
I see him not as a pure engineering engineer, but as a person who can be engineering adjacent (engineering sales / customer stuff / business?). I've tried to impart to him in the phone call that he can be very successful in that type of career.
Sometimes he also seems like someone who might be suitable for a technical trade of some kind (watch repair, for example), but I think that career track probably doesn't satisfy his "respected career" criteria. (For the purposes of this thread, please set aside whether the trades are, are not or should be respected. I think they should be but reluctantly accept that generally they are not, but that's largely beside the point.)
As far as (b) goes, I've suggested:
1. Reading through his school's course catalog and seeing if any other degree program seems appealing.
2. Talking with any of his engineering faculty that he likes and trusts. He liked this suggestion and is executing on it today.
3. Taking classes in different areas that appeal (expensive and slow, but might work). He likes this idea.
4. Talking with the career counseling folks at his university. He might do this.
5. Getting jobs and working in areas he thinks he might like (like a CAD technician) and then working towards adjacent areas until he (a) hits a brick wall and needs some credentials, (b) is told he needs credentials, or (c) everyone who does what he wants has a certain kind of credential. Then getting that credential if he wants.
6. Talking with his uncle who has a degree in product design (which is, I understand it, mechanical engineering adjacent).
7. I didn't today, but I think I've mentioned job shadowing and informational interviews.
8. I pointed out the BLS Occupational Outlook Handbook as a resource.
Thanks for any suggestions or advice on either (a) specific careers / jobs / whatever that might be suitable, or (b) good methods to identify and evaluate career choices.
My son is a college sophomore at a school he seems to like, and was working towards a degree in mechanical engineering. He's been struggling.
Today in a phone call we seem to have arrived at the conclusion that mechanical engineering is probably not the right degree for him.
He isn't doing well in some of the core classes, isn't looking forward to some of the remaining core classes. He generally isn't happy and also seems very stressed out to me. He also says he doesn't have a very good idea of what mechanical engineers actually *do*, which makes it even more difficult for him to pursue it.
The stress in the phone call seemed to me to subside a fair amount once we started talking about alternative options and taking steps to investigate other choices.
I'm seeking input for (a) what other fields to consider, and (b) how to go about career counseling.
As far as (a) goes, here's what I know about him that might be relevant:
He's very smart and pretty well rounded (IB graduate, merit scholarship)
Naturally good at and inclined towards entrepreneur-type stuff - he's had several successful small businesses in high school
Has some leadership and teaching skills and ability
Loved his junior high tech class (took it and then was a teaching assistant)
Loves engineering competitions (like mousetrap cars, building bridges out of popsicle sticks) - he and his team won the freshman engineering contest at his school
Loved his CAD class and SolidWorks
Loves failure analysis stuff like the engineering disaster shows
Likes mechanical stuff like cars and watches and assembling computers
Happens to be tall, good-looking, charming, and personable
Wants to be "successful", which I think to him means having a respected career, an interesting job he likes, and being able to buy the stuff he wants (nice car, nice clothes, nice things in general).
ADHD but hates the meds so far
Does not like the "details" of the central part of mechanical engineering classes like thermo and physics
Did not think that going to Rolex watch school would be a good career type move - sees that more as a hobby
I see him not as a pure engineering engineer, but as a person who can be engineering adjacent (engineering sales / customer stuff / business?). I've tried to impart to him in the phone call that he can be very successful in that type of career.
Sometimes he also seems like someone who might be suitable for a technical trade of some kind (watch repair, for example), but I think that career track probably doesn't satisfy his "respected career" criteria. (For the purposes of this thread, please set aside whether the trades are, are not or should be respected. I think they should be but reluctantly accept that generally they are not, but that's largely beside the point.)
As far as (b) goes, I've suggested:
1. Reading through his school's course catalog and seeing if any other degree program seems appealing.
2. Talking with any of his engineering faculty that he likes and trusts. He liked this suggestion and is executing on it today.
3. Taking classes in different areas that appeal (expensive and slow, but might work). He likes this idea.
4. Talking with the career counseling folks at his university. He might do this.
5. Getting jobs and working in areas he thinks he might like (like a CAD technician) and then working towards adjacent areas until he (a) hits a brick wall and needs some credentials, (b) is told he needs credentials, or (c) everyone who does what he wants has a certain kind of credential. Then getting that credential if he wants.
6. Talking with his uncle who has a degree in product design (which is, I understand it, mechanical engineering adjacent).
7. I didn't today, but I think I've mentioned job shadowing and informational interviews.
8. I pointed out the BLS Occupational Outlook Handbook as a resource.
Thanks for any suggestions or advice on either (a) specific careers / jobs / whatever that might be suitable, or (b) good methods to identify and evaluate career choices.
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