I didn't say anything before, but I had always thought 35 was when the risks started picking up and 40 is considered to be risky. That's what the OB told us.
Seriously, who has kids BEFORE age 27 these days!!??
Hmmm ... interesting that both responding to Audrey are men. Maybe a coincidence.
It struck me that Lilly has it about right if she's 30 and realizes that she *needs* to make a decision but that even so it would/could be a few years before the "blessed event."
It wasn't clear from your posts if your current b'friend is someone you are planning on marrying. If not (and even if marrying him) the logistics of it all could well take a few years. Fertility does start to decrease in the 20s and, I think, starts to fall off sharply at 35. Dredging up my own twists and turns from those days, part of the decision made in my 30s to not have kids was based on both the current relationship(s) and how I felt about all sorts of factors (the possibility of being a divorced mom, being financially dependent on another, working or not, daycare, etc. etc.).
So I *decided* (think it was mid-30s, definitely late for an affirmative call if not married) knowing that even if I later felt differently (and it turns out I did) and it was "too late" it was not because of simply drifting along oblivious. In retrospect, it wasn't even so much that I changed my mind but that I learned of singles adopting from China - had started in small numbers a few years earlier - and it just felt right.
Since I adopted, it probably makes sense to add a few words here. My cousin called me not long ago hysterical because she had finally decided to adopt and assumed she could follow my path. Naught. I was so sad for her (in large part because of her dismay that she just hadn't "realized"). There was a window for singles to adopt a healthy baby (with work and limited leave thought it prudent to minimize known issues) that in large part closed a few years back. Not realized by many is that domestic adoptions (of any ethnicity) can be about as difficult if not more so than internationally. For China (the country I know most about), the waiting periods for couples are about 5 years these days.
We live in an area where many women are highly educated and delay having kids. Some are fortunate (as I was with adoption) and begin families in their late 30s. Two of my acquaintances have bio-kids born after age 43 - one at 48 (which was a major but very welcomed surprise). Lots of others turned to fertility clinics (a big business here) or adoption after failing to become pregnant (many adopted kids - maybe 5 % in our elementary school ).