Katsmeow
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I don't know that you can have expectations or really know. I can say what I've seen with other which is a mixed bag.
I'm adopted so most of the relatives aren't genetically related to me:
My mother -- 88, still drives, OK mentally although she is starting to get more confused and forget things. On the negative she has diabetes and heart failure. On the positive when she was in her mid-70s she had a very difficult heart surgery (quite often fatal) but the surgery was quite successful. Without it she would have died quickly. She has clearly slowed but lives independently.
My dad -- died at 75. Unlike my mom, he was very active and was still riding a bicycle in his mid-70s doing a lot of work in the yard, etc. But you can't really escape 60 years of smoking so he died from lung cancer
Their parents -- Paternal grandmother in her 60s I guess when she died of cancer, grandfather died in his 90s. Maternal grandfather died in mid-60s, grandmother was 89.
My mother's siblings -- Brother died at around 90, oldest sister was in her early 90s and was in poor health for years before dying (2 leg amputations negatively affected quality of life). One sister died in 50s from cancer. My mothers's twin younger sisters are living on their own, still driving, etc. in their mid-80s.
The widower of my mom's oldest sister is around 95 or 96 now, still driving, mentally sharp and living on his own.
On the other hand, DH's father died in his mid-70s from a sudden heart attack. He was active right up until the moment that he had the heart attack (he had a long history of heart disease). DH's mother started having strokes in her late 70s and spent her last several years in a nursing home. She had been very active until the strokes and did not have good quality of life the last 5 or 6 years.
My biological mother - mid-80s now, good health, active, all there mentally but a smoker so who knows how long it will last.
I'm adopted so most of the relatives aren't genetically related to me:
My mother -- 88, still drives, OK mentally although she is starting to get more confused and forget things. On the negative she has diabetes and heart failure. On the positive when she was in her mid-70s she had a very difficult heart surgery (quite often fatal) but the surgery was quite successful. Without it she would have died quickly. She has clearly slowed but lives independently.
My dad -- died at 75. Unlike my mom, he was very active and was still riding a bicycle in his mid-70s doing a lot of work in the yard, etc. But you can't really escape 60 years of smoking so he died from lung cancer
Their parents -- Paternal grandmother in her 60s I guess when she died of cancer, grandfather died in his 90s. Maternal grandfather died in mid-60s, grandmother was 89.
My mother's siblings -- Brother died at around 90, oldest sister was in her early 90s and was in poor health for years before dying (2 leg amputations negatively affected quality of life). One sister died in 50s from cancer. My mothers's twin younger sisters are living on their own, still driving, etc. in their mid-80s.
The widower of my mom's oldest sister is around 95 or 96 now, still driving, mentally sharp and living on his own.
On the other hand, DH's father died in his mid-70s from a sudden heart attack. He was active right up until the moment that he had the heart attack (he had a long history of heart disease). DH's mother started having strokes in her late 70s and spent her last several years in a nursing home. She had been very active until the strokes and did not have good quality of life the last 5 or 6 years.
My biological mother - mid-80s now, good health, active, all there mentally but a smoker so who knows how long it will last.
