Peter
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My bride-to-be volunteered "I don't want a giant rock". We went out together and chose one. It cost a lot less than 3 months salary.
My only advice would be to find a good reputable local jeweler to deal with instead of Tiffany. You will get more for your money, great personal service/ attention and still be able to meet "integrity with sourcing" concerns.
Ask your friends and colleagues as there are many "jewelry exchanges" in most areas that have great jewelers to work with. They can all OBTAIN any size/ price range of stones and settings you want.
Congrats and good luck.
They point out that since half of all marriages in the U.S. end in divorce, there is a surplus and a lot of savings in buying used diamond rings online or at pawn shops.
+1. DW has done a lot of jewelry shopping at pawn shops and has received great discounts. She says there have always been a variety of diamond rings to choose from at those places.
You should buy your ring from a reputable dealer in a diamond district (if your city has one). You will pay much less than retail and get a better quality product. I bought my wife's ring from a jeweler in the Los Angeles jewelry district over 30 years ago. . .
Before you spend any money, find out what she wants.
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Well, obviously you are wise because you are taking the same course that I did!Thanks for all the replies so far! I think every single reply has given me something to think about.
I have been doing my research on diamonds and I had already decided to focus on color and clarity rather than a big but crappy diamond. I have been looking for a F or better color and VVS2 or better clarity and something around 1 carat, and a solitaire setting. But she likes sparkle so a setting with side stones might be preferred by her.
She likes surprises so I had just assumed it would be best to surprise her with something I picked out. But you have made me rethink that assumption and consider buying a cheap placeholder then shopping for the real deal together. But that is complicated by the fact that we live on the Big Island and there are not a lot of shopping options and also that she might be reluctant to have me spend much. That's why I mentioned that she has saved a ton of money - she does not like to spend!
Just something I have to think through I guess with her particular personality in mind.
Good idea. I did the calculation, and it appears I paid ~$7500 in 2022 dollars for her engagement ring....
I just went to BLS.gov and put in what I paid for it back then, I still remember. In today's dollars, it's $2,230. I have no idea how investment diamond prices have tracked with inflation.....
I I was never into a proposal being a "surprise" or a big theatrical production.
I had to ask her three times before I got a yes.
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Yeah... so, 2nd time around I was not messing about. I knew the kind of ring I wanted before I knew the kind of husband I wanted! So when now-DH said he was pretty sure I was the type that didn't want to be surprised with a ring, he showed he knew me well enough. I knew I wanted white/platinum, I knew I wanted a round stone, and one that came with an option for a good match for a wedding ring which I would also like to wear on its own, and could eventually add perhaps an eternity band to the set decades later, if we ever wanted to. I didn't know any of that at 26, but by 34? Heck yeah.
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