ivinsfan
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I require more data.
"My GF is super smart, beautiful, has a professional career and is fun." How is she with your kids? You've been together a year; I'm surprised you didn't mention this.
To me, it sounds as if instead of love, you've made this relationship all about money, and how you make so much more than she does. Being beautiful - which you evidently consider so important that you are willing to accept a partner who makes far less money - takes time, effort, and yes, money. For that reason alone, she has a right to expect you to invest in your appearance, too. (You didn't say whether you do take care of your looks, and she is just searching for stuff to pick at, which would be a danger sign).
The quip about the extra appetizer puzzled me. Are you saying you won't let her have one (which would be too stingy for words) or that she thinks you need to have one, even if you aren't hungry (which would be weird)?
Well we might have scared the OP away with our opinions. But I also noticed that he didn't say he loved her. I suspect he feels the relationship is going downhill and listed all her good qualities to convince himself things aren't that bad. The comment about being beautiful was one of many he made about her, so I don't think it's the primary driver.
So she values looking good (which to her means brand names) and he favors function over status. .they like to do things together that are a little pricey and have tried to work out a plan where they share the cost in a fair manner. That's a mature way to do things, but apparently its not working. He still feels he spends too much money on "frivolous" stuff and she thinks he doesn't spend enough money on it. He should break it off, not because she is evil, but he's not in the wrong either.