DrRoy
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For those of you having a hard time deciding who to give money to...start spending some/more of it on yourself.
+1. See the BTD thread.
For those of you having a hard time deciding who to give money to...start spending some/more of it on yourself.
I have asked her many times, she just says "NO." Won't give a reason...
I agree with Koolau. Changing one’s spending habits after a lifetime of saving is easy to suggest but very difficult to do.
I was considering St. Jude, but I saw a few things on Guidestar that bothered me a bit and we took them off the list. Nothing really major, mostly too much spent on advertising and some really, really highly paid employees (they may be surgeons, can't remember).
I was considering giving to St. Jude also until I read this
https://www.propublica.org/article/st.-jude-fights-donors-families-in-court-for-share-of-estates
Now I'm looking for small/local community foundations...
... Donors expect to be engaged by the charities they support, and vocally don’t like it when they are ignored....
Any article inevitably involve selection of material. Nothing surprising about that. The real questions are whether the stories are accurate or not and whether they typify St. Jude's litigators' behavior.^^^^ That ProPublica article is very slanted and and relied on selective, salacious examples. ...
Maybe it's unusual, but I don't want to be engaged. If I give you money, just take it and leave me alone. No cards, no letters, no calls. I have chosen to give you money for my own reasons, and if I want to give you more, I know who you are and how to contact you.
I serve on a board of a smaller charity. Litigation is the absolute last thing on our collective mind.DW's hobby in 20 years of retirement has been serving and chairing nonprofit boards. I have lost count of the number but it is probably over twenty. Usually three or four at any point in time. She has often been involved in the development function, sometimes involving donations >$1M. Inevitably the organizations are grateful for what they get and do not look the gift horse in the mouth. Never once have I heard of possible or actual litigation concerning donations.
What about thinking of spending it down to near zero? What about parents? Siblings?
We maintain a fund with the local community foundation. It is designated as a "crisis fund" and receives applications from local public schools among other intermediaries. One year we funded car parts so the high school auto maintenance class could repair a couple of cars which were then donated to people who needed them. Other times we have donated winter clothing to grade-schoolers. A local pastor has applied for and received grocery store gift cards to help families in crisis. The foundation does the screening and distributes the money. We just top up the fund (via QCD) once in a while. This is all small-dollar stuff but high impact to recipients. Very satisfying. Something like this would also be very easy to set up in an estate plan.
There are exceptions, & Hawaii might be one of them. My wife & I ran our computer consulting company for 32 years, & in that time, we were unable to hire a single local graduate who lasted longer than his/her 3-month trial period! In fact, the majority didn't make it through the first month! That included two job candidates who had been "awarded" local PhDs!
It's tremendously expensive to hire employees from out of state, but that's what we were forced to do, thanks to the abysmal local education system! The local Dept. of Education spends more per student than almost any other state, so throwing more money at them isn't going to solve the endemic problem of really-bad teaching techniques.
We did our best to support local education, & my Hawaii Computers for Kids Program has put tens of thousands of computer systems into PK-12 schools since 1991. The many students who benefitted from that training wisely moved out of state to get their advanced degrees.
My point is to just be very careful when it comes to giving bequests to schools.
When I was growing up, my parents drilled into us "please and thank you". I think a 14 year old is sufficiently old enough and should have shown a bit of gratitude and definitely said thank you. It unfortunately speaks to his upbringing.