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Just another sign we’re old and out of touch I guess.
We attended the wedding of our favorite nephew in mid July, it was wonderful, and we’re glad we were invited. It was a nice affair, somewhat on a budget. TBH I appreciate when newlyweds don’t go crazy spending on a wedding.
They specifically requested no gifts (we get that), no registry, but I assume everyone left an envelope. We left a nice note with $500 in cash. [Our travel and related expenses, gladly spent, were about $1500]
We haven’t heard a word from the couple…
Honestly we’re not miffed that we didn’t get a thank you, we’d just be more comfortable if we knew they actually got our gift - and the $ didn’t leave with a (dishonest) guest or a catering employee.
We’re tempted to eventually call nephew just to make sure they got it (if we don’t hear something within 3 months?), but we can’t think of any way to do that without coming off as soliciting a thank you - again, not our goal. Odds are we’ll never call, and just hope we hear some day. And I guess I’ll insist we write a check instead of cash in the future.
Unheard of how we were brought up, but evidently this isn’t uncommon nowadays:
https://www.sheknows.com/health-and...ing-gift-thank-you-cards-a-thing-of-the-past/
We attended the wedding of our favorite nephew in mid July, it was wonderful, and we’re glad we were invited. It was a nice affair, somewhat on a budget. TBH I appreciate when newlyweds don’t go crazy spending on a wedding.
They specifically requested no gifts (we get that), no registry, but I assume everyone left an envelope. We left a nice note with $500 in cash. [Our travel and related expenses, gladly spent, were about $1500]
We haven’t heard a word from the couple…
Honestly we’re not miffed that we didn’t get a thank you, we’d just be more comfortable if we knew they actually got our gift - and the $ didn’t leave with a (dishonest) guest or a catering employee.
We’re tempted to eventually call nephew just to make sure they got it (if we don’t hear something within 3 months?), but we can’t think of any way to do that without coming off as soliciting a thank you - again, not our goal. Odds are we’ll never call, and just hope we hear some day. And I guess I’ll insist we write a check instead of cash in the future.
Unheard of how we were brought up, but evidently this isn’t uncommon nowadays:
I’d say out of the past 10 weddings I’ve attended in the past year, only four of the couples sent me an official thank you for the gift I took time and effort to pick out and purchase.
“For the past few weddings we attended, in which cash gifts were provided, no thank you card was sent… not even an email or social post of acknowledgement,” Erin Tselenchuk, a San Francisco-based events planner, tells SheKnows. “Due to the value of the gifts, I had to check with someone — the bride, groom, parents of either — to ensure that the gift was received and not stolen. Even after the inquiry was made, there wasn’t a verbal thank you either.”
The reason? Some couples feel that providing a lavish party is good enough.
“There is an expectation of entitlement and that the thank you to their guests for the gift is being able to attend a lavish wedding,” adds Tselenchuk.
https://www.sheknows.com/health-and...ing-gift-thank-you-cards-a-thing-of-the-past/
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