I'm a little shocked they qualified for that mortgage to begin with given all the other debt they were juggling.. ie not sure how all of that was less than the recommended 28% max.
Ive been exposed to many of these situations, especially in the 2004-2010 range. What I find is when these types of bad things happen to people, they just can't face the reality of it, they believe they will immediately get back on their feet and thus not willing to change (like they should). The depression then spurs unnecessary spending and the shame of it causes them to do things that confirm the lie they are telling everyone else.
I think facebook compounds it because well everyone only posts the very best part of their lives and every is super rich and totally happy all the time trying to out do each other. My cousin is going thru a bankruptcy which I would never have known from FB, but I happened to see the court case while searching for something else... if you see their facebook page they are moving by choice, everything is awesome, they are all setup at their campgrounds for the summer, etc.
I find it most telling when people have a medical emergency, several people in my home town had go-fund-mes and fundraisers for medical bills and I was like What?? How can they need a go-fund-me if they just went on that elaborate vacation and built that new house? Yes paying the out of pocket max is painful but it shouldn't be begging for money painful, not when they have good jobs and good insurance and obviously enough money to get nice things.
Ive been exposed to many of these situations, especially in the 2004-2010 range. What I find is when these types of bad things happen to people, they just can't face the reality of it, they believe they will immediately get back on their feet and thus not willing to change (like they should). The depression then spurs unnecessary spending and the shame of it causes them to do things that confirm the lie they are telling everyone else.
I think facebook compounds it because well everyone only posts the very best part of their lives and every is super rich and totally happy all the time trying to out do each other. My cousin is going thru a bankruptcy which I would never have known from FB, but I happened to see the court case while searching for something else... if you see their facebook page they are moving by choice, everything is awesome, they are all setup at their campgrounds for the summer, etc.
I find it most telling when people have a medical emergency, several people in my home town had go-fund-mes and fundraisers for medical bills and I was like What?? How can they need a go-fund-me if they just went on that elaborate vacation and built that new house? Yes paying the out of pocket max is painful but it shouldn't be begging for money painful, not when they have good jobs and good insurance and obviously enough money to get nice things.