What the rat race offered you as a youngster was an escape from your insecurity, your fears of facing he world alone and also facing yourself. Many of the needs that made you choose that safe direction in the first place do no exists any more. Your ability to hold a job or run a home has been proven. You have shown people that you can fulfill your role. If you fell into the rat race during the Great Depression you may have felt that it was impossible to get a job, that any job was good and that you should fee grateful for it and not complain.
Your needs in the beginning were the needs over young person at the beginning of the quest for identity and fulfillment. your fears were the fears of being rejected, of being worthless as a businessman, as a mother or whatever. If you look you will see that somehow during the years many of these feelings have been mellowed by age, even if they haven't gone away. Sure, maybe you aren't the wonder child who was going to tear the world apart -- but you didn't do so badly either. Really you didn't. In the old days you were afraid you couldn't survive. The point is: why stay on at what you are doing just because you are trying to prove you can survive? You've already done that. It's time to do something else. You've grown up and your decisions about yourself have to grow up, too.
You've survived. Maybe now it's time to live.
It should be obvious that when you decide to change that the people around you, who are in the same boat as you, are going to be enormously threatened by your move. More than likely they have not reevaluated themselves, and so they regard your leaving the old ways as a dire threat. Perhaps they fear that they, too, have been doing the wrong thing all their lives. You must be stopped before you upset their lives. Your compatriots are going to be jealous. Don't expect any of them, except the most open of them, to express feelings of warmth toward you. They have to put you down because what you are doing is something they may not even be able to think of. Most likely they will agree that things could be better. Since they are not doing any better themselves, the idea of a change is something they don't really want to cope with. If you were merely talking about a change of homes or a job in a different company, it would be a different story. It would be less of a threat to others, though still upsetting. To make a real change, to give up something and start fresh somewhere, is thought to be the idea of a dreamer, a kook. In a flash you will hear all of the arguments you have been struggling with, and they'll be presented to you as if they are absolutes pointing only in one direction, the one opposite your choice.
Whether your change involves your family, your job, or just your attitude toward work, pleasure and what you consider to be important to your life, the people you will speak to will react with fear and offer you very little comfort. What you will hear is a recitation of the reasons and rationalizations they use to keep their own minds in place. This is a very tiresome business.
Why can't they let you go? The answer is simple. Society fears a free man. Whenever society sees someone who is truly free, it feels compelled to bind him up again. The person must be branded as an outcast and categorized as odd and unconforming (s.i.c.). Society must do this merely because, by definition, society is an arrangement of rules to be conformed to. Not to conform is not to belong in society. But you'll do well to remember: the greatest accomplishments do not necessarily happen within the confines of the usual social restrictions.
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A person who is truly free to follow the dictates of his own conscience and heart threatens that part of society that depends on reliable productivity and consumption. If a person had the right to choose whether the will or will not serve in the army, stay at a boring job because he is told he is supposed to, drive a dozen screaming Cub Scouts to the zoo, then the entire distribution of labor may be upset. When people leave the rat race, they become more whole and less of a cog in some giant apparatus of gears grinding ceaselessly toward a goal that the individual worker doesn't see or understand. once someone is free, it becomes increasingly difficult to find meaning in attaching the same bolt to a thousand different cars every day, or to sweep the same floors each morning. The person who breaks away and becomes free, feels whole and wants to see the entire operation from beginning to end. He wants to be in control himself. He wants to feel that his entire world is his. it is a feeling of self-sustenance, increased self-worth, and self-assuredness. It is the ability to say "no" to nonsense. It is being free.