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Like many others here, DH and I haven't decided where we want to live. I can't believe that we pulled the plug 8 months ago, wow! That was a great decision so I know we're capable of figuring this location thing out.
So here are our current options and here's the plan for figuring it out. I'll let you know if it's actually helpful in another 6-8 weeks. In the meantime, you might want to try it out and tell me if it helped YOU, ha.
We currently have two homes; one in the city and one on 30 rural acres about 25 min from the closet small city. We bought that property in 2007 as a fixer upper weekend place. It is STILL a fixer upper though all in all in better shape than we found it.
I have never really liked having both places except I like them both. Does that makes sense? Wherever I am, I am happy. If I'm in the city, I'm generally happy. If I'm at the farm, I'm generally happy. They are just SUCH DIFFERENT lifestyles. We've talked about selling the whole lot and moving somewhere completely different but I think we've about decided (partly based on comments here) to stay put for now and then if we want to move somewhere wildly different down the road then all the more power to us. Right now though, I simply do not want to own and manage two places anymore. I am so done with managing so much.
So my exercise is this: Each day or two I sit down and write a page entitled I love living in... One page describes a day in the life of living in our city home and the other will talk about a day in the life of living on the farm. It is a total brainstorm - I can pretend, project, imagine... I figure this way I'll get to run through most of my highs and reservations about each place and at the end of, say 6 weeks or so, I'll just read through the whole thing and look for patterns and see what jumps out at me.
There are definitely pluses and minuses in both categories and I'm hoping this will help me pinpoint them in one place. Yes I can make a pro/con list, but I think doing it this way will help me fully appreciate the emotion around each decision and those emotions are a crucial factor in our decision making. DH is doing the exercise too.
I'll keep you posted...
So here are our current options and here's the plan for figuring it out. I'll let you know if it's actually helpful in another 6-8 weeks. In the meantime, you might want to try it out and tell me if it helped YOU, ha.
We currently have two homes; one in the city and one on 30 rural acres about 25 min from the closet small city. We bought that property in 2007 as a fixer upper weekend place. It is STILL a fixer upper though all in all in better shape than we found it.
I have never really liked having both places except I like them both. Does that makes sense? Wherever I am, I am happy. If I'm in the city, I'm generally happy. If I'm at the farm, I'm generally happy. They are just SUCH DIFFERENT lifestyles. We've talked about selling the whole lot and moving somewhere completely different but I think we've about decided (partly based on comments here) to stay put for now and then if we want to move somewhere wildly different down the road then all the more power to us. Right now though, I simply do not want to own and manage two places anymore. I am so done with managing so much.
So my exercise is this: Each day or two I sit down and write a page entitled I love living in... One page describes a day in the life of living in our city home and the other will talk about a day in the life of living on the farm. It is a total brainstorm - I can pretend, project, imagine... I figure this way I'll get to run through most of my highs and reservations about each place and at the end of, say 6 weeks or so, I'll just read through the whole thing and look for patterns and see what jumps out at me.
There are definitely pluses and minuses in both categories and I'm hoping this will help me pinpoint them in one place. Yes I can make a pro/con list, but I think doing it this way will help me fully appreciate the emotion around each decision and those emotions are a crucial factor in our decision making. DH is doing the exercise too.
I'll keep you posted...