tmm99
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Was talking marriage with a gal I was in love with. I wanted a prenup, I was at 2.5 mil she was in debt. I wanted a snapshot of our finances at the time we got married. We would split everything after that 50/50. My thought was our pasts we should own and going forward we are equal. She thought I was just planning to leave her. I have an exit strategy for everything thing I do, investments, jobs, housing and even have one setup for when I die. Why wouldn't I do one for marriage, not saying I would want it to end but hey I don't want to die but I have that covered by a contract as well. She didn't like it one bit and eventually she ended it, my fault of course. LOL
Your post made me think...
After all, marriage is a contract - a business transaction. More than 50% of marriages end in divorce and if you're a realistic/objective person who is good at assessing all the possible what if's, I think asking for a prenup will be a real possibility. To me, asking for a prenup doesn't mean the person loves the other person less but is only being realistic. I guess some think it's not romantic and it may not be, but more than 50% of marriages end in divorce. Let's say Tom and Mary want to get married. Tom is much richer than Mary, and Tom asks Mary to sign a prenup. Mary may think that Tom wants a prenup because he thinks she may be a gold digger. And she may be! Infatuation fades and people change and some people change as soon as they hold their marriage certificate. Mary may think Tom isn't fully in love. That may be true too.