Intermittent fasting did nothing for me. Later, I worked with a dietician (paid for by Medicare). I changed to counting macro's using MyFitnessPal as a convenient tool and cut out snacking after supper. My goal was to slowly drop weight while eating protein, fat and carbs in proportions that would likely be appropriate for the rest of my life. That is, no ending a special diet and returning to a more "normal" diet later after some goal was reached.
My dietician believed everyone is different and during our meetings we talked about my results, my problems (like feeling tired in the afternoon for example) and reviewed my eating log. She offered suggestions, pointed out issues with some of my choices and offered general education. And it seems to have worked.
Does MyFitnessPal allow you to enter ingredients and their weight for a recipe, divide by number of servings, and come up with a calorie count for a portion? The old (and most wonderful) Calorie Count website functionality was eliminated by new owners a few years ago, and I've found nothing to equal it. Most calorie counting sites are counting for fast foods, restaurant foods, etc. Calorie Count came back with calories and nutrients and gave you an evaluation for the day based on the type of diet you were following. I miss it!
Like you, I believe in finding one's own way to eating meals that work for us. I have suspended belief in any gurus, books, plans, formulas beyond what makes sense to me.