OP will stagger back here in a few weeks and thank us for all our insightful posts. Today I got thanked for a contribution I made in June (on 50+).
I knew the intimate details of both my Dad and my MIL. Did not influence my behaviour and I always treated them and their money with respect. I have shared with both my boys the general nature of our will and how they will be handled.
For the fun of it...Keith