What to do...
My little kids are having a birthday, and I want to invite their cousins who are now living with "dad", my late sister's ex-husband. DW and I do not respect nor care to see the "ex" if at all possible, but ever since my DS passed we have been "sucking it up" for the sake of trying to maintain the cousins relationship between our children and my nieces.
It was a very bitter divorce, very ugly, wrenched, inhumane and we view ex with many character flaws (abusive to my late sister, Narcissistic, a little too touchy feely around the females, etc.)
Do I simply just invite the girls and hope ex just drops them off, do I offer to pick up cousins and drop them off after the party...or just suck it up 'again' and invite the whole co-mingled family including ex, his new spouse and her unrelated daughter. Or don't invite them at all which is my least favorite option.
WWYD?? What would you do?
My little kids are having a birthday, and I want to invite their cousins who are now living with "dad", my late sister's ex-husband. DW and I do not respect nor care to see the "ex" if at all possible, but ever since my DS passed we have been "sucking it up" for the sake of trying to maintain the cousins relationship between our children and my nieces.
It was a very bitter divorce, very ugly, wrenched, inhumane and we view ex with many character flaws (abusive to my late sister, Narcissistic, a little too touchy feely around the females, etc.)
Do I simply just invite the girls and hope ex just drops them off, do I offer to pick up cousins and drop them off after the party...or just suck it up 'again' and invite the whole co-mingled family including ex, his new spouse and her unrelated daughter. Or don't invite them at all which is my least favorite option.
WWYD?? What would you do?