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In my case it was $2500 which was a fraction of the settlement.
As far as taking it seriously early on, I would challenge anyone to say what could predict a divorce is in your future. I married the love of my life, my soulmate and all that. She changed, was diagnosed with clinical depression. Was put on meds, decided she wanted other men in her life and the rest is history. I am sure if I took it more seriously I would have foreseen that 12 years earlier.
i look at it as more of a partnership , a matching in flaws and strengths , teaming up with a perfect ( female ) double is likely to drive the world nuts , and a complete opposite probasbly just as problematic ,
but yes people change but my current life expectancy is less than 10 years , so maybe that change will happen after it matters to me .
from watching some friends dscline into depression , maybe you could have reduced the slide and maybe not , there are some triggers not even the medicos spot in time , some obscure illness , undisclosed pain or stress .
so yes an unhappy split is always possible ( but some can be forseen by observers , right from day one )