I occasionally catch up with this GIRL(there) on weekends. We live in different cities about an hour apart. We have known each other for a couple years but I can't seem to figure out how to read some of her contradicting ways - hypocrite might be a tad too strong.
I think for the most part I do what I say or believe & tend to trust others that do the same. I will provide some examples of what this female has done and maybe it's just me but I see red flags. She has a) said she doesn't like going out to the "club" atmosphere but does b) said she prefers to stay home and just have people over or read or go to movies but goes out (funny b/c this weekend she said she was doing that & was no way going to dress up for the Halloween festivities but dressed up & went to a Halloween party instead) c) talked down about the behaviors of some of her partying friends but continues to hang out with them
Also a few weekends ago (I have been pretty busy with work), I was free and asked if she had any plans on Sunday. She said "I don't know" which sort of surprised me & said she told a guy she hasn't seen in a while that she would go to a museum with him over the weekend but didn't have a set date. Another example of where she said she if I can do something she would always put me first but kept her loosely scheduled date instead.
Anyone think I have reason to see red flags? Maybe at the very least she is pretending to be the person she thinks I would want to see? I'm not sure how to take it all as she plays herself up to be so innocent & just wants to please everyone but for all I know she is a pro at this game. You all are smarter than me.......
I think for the most part I do what I say or believe & tend to trust others that do the same. I will provide some examples of what this female has done and maybe it's just me but I see red flags. She has a) said she doesn't like going out to the "club" atmosphere but does b) said she prefers to stay home and just have people over or read or go to movies but goes out (funny b/c this weekend she said she was doing that & was no way going to dress up for the Halloween festivities but dressed up & went to a Halloween party instead) c) talked down about the behaviors of some of her partying friends but continues to hang out with them
Also a few weekends ago (I have been pretty busy with work), I was free and asked if she had any plans on Sunday. She said "I don't know" which sort of surprised me & said she told a guy she hasn't seen in a while that she would go to a museum with him over the weekend but didn't have a set date. Another example of where she said she if I can do something she would always put me first but kept her loosely scheduled date instead.
Anyone think I have reason to see red flags? Maybe at the very least she is pretending to be the person she thinks I would want to see? I'm not sure how to take it all as she plays herself up to be so innocent & just wants to please everyone but for all I know she is a pro at this game. You all are smarter than me.......