Like many, I married a great woman and figured that I would be married until I left this life (she was younger and a woman, so the stats favored that result). Alas, she flew the coop and ran off leaving me with one child still at home and another heartbroken over what had happened to our family.
I soon found out that married friends hung out with married friends (just like [-]I[/-] we did) and were just about useless for finding a new partner.
I also found out that remarrying at an older age, especially if two people have children and financial assets is tough. Even if they get along well, there are issues:
- Ex spouse can be a pain sometimes.
- How do we split holiday time?
- How do we share some asset, but leave mine to my kids and yours to your kids?
- I don't want to marry you and care for another man, I did that once and it was enough!
- And, the worst of all, is when I burdened with the ex-husband's baggage. Not fair!
So, if you are happily married my best advice is to stay that way.
That said, if I was miserable in a marriage and all reasonable attempts to change for the better had failed, I would rather deal with above bullet points than live in a toxic relationship.
Still, there are a lot of great single people out there and perseverance, some discretion, a strong sense of self, and a loving an giving personality is what is needed. And, for us men, it helps to be financially secure, bath regularly and not drink to much.