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Old 03-01-2018, 05:22 PM   #1
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Wake up call...

I lost a dear friend and colleague this week. 49 years old. She was prepping for a trial on Sunday and died in her sleep. Left behind a husband and 3 young kids. She always worked too hard and gave her all. I am sad for her loss, but this has been a wake up call for me and other colleagues. I am getting back on my ER band wagon. I have really backslid lately.

Hope this forum holds me to task...
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Old 03-01-2018, 05:39 PM   #2
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Sat in a room doing a budget with one of our managers today. He's 68 and knows he doesn't want to manage any longer but doesn't know what he would do if he retired. I asked him to consider his life as a yard stick and how many inches he has left. Perhaps more importantly, how many good ones.


Wish I could get more of our youngsters willing to participate in the retirement plan so they have options, even if they choose to continue working in their sixties.


Sorry about your colleague. That's one cold face slap for sure.
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Old 03-01-2018, 06:04 PM   #3
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I buried my mom last month and my dad last week. They were 18 years older than me. In recent days, I've thought a lot about the years left to me.
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Wow!

My mother was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer at age 62 and passed away at age 63. She had been perfectly healthy and very active - the cancer came up out of the blue. My Dad was turning 65 and retired just in time to care for her. I was the oldest of four children in our 20s and 30s at the time and as you can imagine it hit us all very hard.

My mother's passing before my parent retired was perhaps the strongest incentive for me to retire early. And I did.

Now I am feeling it very keenly, as I am turning 59 this year. I can't help but feel very aware at some gut level that my days might be numbered. I have developed some oddball health issues by now, but none are life threatening by any stretch (knock on wood!!!).

Still part of me finds it hard to look past the early sixties. That clock is ticking!!!
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I buried my mom last month and my dad last week. They were 18 years older than me. In recent days, I've thought a lot about the years left to me.
So sorry ! I can not imagine how hard this was with your parents dying so close.
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How many times has a thread like this been posted here! I guess folks that are still working and that are FI, just don't believe it can or will really happen to them or they must really love their job.
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A while back I sat down and mapped my expected lifespan to the 24 hour clock and so used one day as a heuristic for my entire life. So, most of my young and adolescent years occurred between midnight and daybreak, university was 6-7:30 am and so forth.

Each hour is worth about 3.75 years if I remember correctly. At this point I am between 3 and 4 pm, with lights out at midnight. What happened to the morning and early afternoon? It flew by. This helps me keep things in perspective.

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I buried my mom last month and my dad last week. They were 18 years older than me. In recent days, I've thought a lot about the years left to me.
Sorry to hear of your losses.
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I buried my mom last month and my dad last week. They were 18 years older than me. In recent days, I've thought a lot about the years left to me.
So sorry that this is happening all at once. One loss at a time is hard enough.
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I lost a dear friend and colleague this week. 49 years old. She was prepping for a trial on Sunday and died in her sleep. Left behind a husband and 3 young kids. She always worked too hard and gave her all. I am sad for her loss, but this has been a wake up call for me and other colleagues. I am getting back on my ER band wagon. I have really backslid lately.

Hope this forum holds me to task...
We know a few people dying in their early 60's. One of the influences in my decision to retire at 57. We only live once. No connections to my former workplace make it a lot easier.
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A while back I sat down and mapped my expected lifespan to the 24 hour clock and so used one day as a heuristic for my entire life. So, most of my young and adolescent years occurred between midnight and daybreak, university was 6-7:30 am and so forth.

Each hour is worth about 3.75 years if I remember correctly. At this point I am between 3 and 4 pm, with lights out at midnight. What happened to the morning and early afternoon? It flew by. This helps me keep things in perspective.

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Maybe it's only noon.... Hope your bio clock is not running fast since it could be later than you think.
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I buried my mom last month and my dad last week. They were 18 years older than me. In recent days, I've thought a lot about the years left to me.
That is sad and I feel for you. A few years back There was a couple I knew and they where in there late 70's. One died one day and the next the other died both had no health problems but both died of heart attacks. They had one son and it was hard on him.

The one saying I learned here was "you can't buy back time". That saying I have said over and over to myself when I wonder if I should of retired early.
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I'm sorry about your losses, Gumby.
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Old 03-01-2018, 07:32 PM   #14
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The one saying I learned here was "you can't buy back time". That saying I have said over and over to myself when I wonder if I should of retired early.
Probably my biggest regret for not retiring earlier that I did. I often think about the extra good years I threw away once I was really FI
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One of the quotes on my retirement spreadsheet is "You can always spend less money, but you can't make more time". My mom died just under two weeks ago (at nearly 81), but I had expected her to live another 6-8 years. It puts priorities into perspective. I'm getting out within 10 months, around age 53.
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I buried my mom last month and my dad last week. They were 18 years older than me. In recent days, I've thought a lot about the years left to me.
My FIL/MIL passed three months apart. He went first, she didn't know she was sick till after he passed.


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I buried my mom last month and my dad last week. They were 18 years older than me. In recent days, I've thought a lot about the years left to me.
I am so very sorry.
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One of the quotes on my retirement spreadsheet is "You can always spend less money, but you can't make more time". My mom died just under two weeks ago (at nearly 81), but I had expected her to live another 6-8 years. It puts priorities into perspective. I'm getting out within 10 months, around age 53.
My condolences for the loss of your mom Bill.
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So sorry for all the loses in this thread. I think like most of you here. Life is short and if you can do it now....do it.
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