Kronk
Full time employment: Posting here.
As a married man who has always had joint accounts and no real concept of "his" vs "her" money, I'm pretty darn sure that I'd have the same feelings jambo has.
The question I have that I haven't seen jambo answer is the "why" she doesn't want to spend any of the money. It was implied that it would be left as a legacy to the kids, but I'm not sure that's been discussed.
Now, if the joint decision has been made to provide a car for DD, but she's unwilling to part with "her" money, that's one thing. If the hangup is that she doesn't want an additional car at all, that's a different thing.
Tough situation, hopefully a calm discussion can clear things up.
The question I have that I haven't seen jambo answer is the "why" she doesn't want to spend any of the money. It was implied that it would be left as a legacy to the kids, but I'm not sure that's been discussed.
Now, if the joint decision has been made to provide a car for DD, but she's unwilling to part with "her" money, that's one thing. If the hangup is that she doesn't want an additional car at all, that's a different thing.
Tough situation, hopefully a calm discussion can clear things up.