There were 5 of us and I am the second oldest. My older sister (4 yrs 4 mos) and I are extremely close. We talk on the phone several times per week. We went to Disney World with grand kids in June, went to NYC with our spouses, went on cruise together and have been to the beach several times with family. I live in WV and she has a house in VA and PA. We always get together when she is at her house in PA. My brother who was 3 yrs younger died in 2001. He was a lot of fun and he visited with us often. My DH and him hunted and fished together and he always came for holidays and cook outs. My younger sister, who is 4 yrs younger and lives the closest, and I have grown apart. I have not been to her house in several years. She called and asked if her and DH could come to our house earlier this year, because she wanted to see our remodeled house. They came and we had a "polite visit". After talking about the kids and grand kids, I could was wracking my brain trying to think what to say. She told my younger brother that she felt like she lost her 2 sisters because she inherited everything from our mother and stepfather. She neglected to tell him that my older sister and I had asked her to hang out with us several times and she had declined and told us to have a nice summer and maybe next summer she would find the time to go to lunch with us. I called her again this month and asked her and she declined and said maybe next month, so who knows. I keep trying and I feel sorry for her, because I feel she is missing out. She definitely had the hardest childhood of all of us. My younger brother is 5 years younger and he will call and we will be on the phone for 1-2 hours easily. We are probably the most financially compatible and our philosophy on rearing our children was the closest. We only see each other a couple of times per year, but really enjoy it when we do. I would love to see him more often. I would be friends with 3 of my siblings, even if we were not family. I miss my brother that died and would love to be able to see him again. I would not be friends with my younger sister, because I feel like I am walking on eggshells when I am around her. (My niece was spending the weekend when she was younger and I asked her why she was not allowed to read the Harry Potter books. My daughter was really into them. I received a 4 page typewritten letter from my sister regarding this. Evidently, she questioned her daughter about every thing we did and said.)