Collecting from dead beats.

[megacorp-firee]

If he is a good friend, I would get him professional help for his gambling problem, which seems to be the basis for all of his loans.
If he is not a good friend, then I would disengage and chalk the $300 up to education. You've learned a valuable lesson and hopefully not repeat it in the future.

 

[dumpster56]

Sometimes in my old neighborhood he would have had his knees injured, and his nose redone.

 

[deserat]

clifp - well, I guess you paid him for his crazy entertainment! As for the healthcare worker - yes, it's sad. What I'd like to know is why she kept cleaning for him after he didn't pay the first or second time. I do see how charm can be misleading, but she is a businesswoman. He's a jerk even if he is an addict and hopefully she won't get taken again by someone like him.

 

[clifp]

clifp - well, I guess you paid him for his crazy entertainment! As for the healthcare worker - yes, it's sad. What I'd like to know is why she kept cleaning for him after he didn't pay the first or second time. I do see how charm can be misleading, but she is a businesswoman. He's a jerk even if he is an addict and hopefully she won't get taken again by someone like him.

Like many immigrant woman, she is very passive and doesn't want to make any kinda of trouble. As I said "the meek shall inherit the earth only after the strong rip off everything that isn't nailed down."


Discussing this a little further I am finding that people loaned this guy a lot more money than I thought. One of my friends loaned him $15K and another couple I know $20K, my friend thinks that the guys total debts maybe close to $80K wow! I did pass on Martha's suggestion of making a claim in probate, since I believe there is a decent size life insurance policy involved. I'll encourage the health care worker to send him a formal bill, by certified mail. The friend says he is actually going to hire a lawyer and urged him to act sooner rather than latter.

I guess people are more trusting than I, I wouldn't loan my nephew $15K for his dubious software business loaning that kinda of money to a gambling addicts is pretty crazy.
Once again thanks for the suggestions, unfortunately when it comes to money, many people aren't very akamai (wise) so who knows if they will take the suggestions.

 

[Nords]

Once again thanks for the suggestions, unfortunately when it comes to money, many people aren't very akamai (wise) so who knows if they will take the suggestions.

And perhaps they don't want to make stink or lose face, either...

After years here I've learned that getting fervent thanks and a promise to think things over really means "Nah, never gonna happen." And the only time you'll ever really hear "No" is prefaced by the phrase "You know what, Mr. Nords..."

 

[armor99]

Wow..... I have been following this thread for a while now. I think it all comes back to living a life with no negative consequences. I understand that a gambling addiciton is just like any other form of addiction, and that limits your control over certain things. But the fact remains, if you do not even TRY to do something about it, then in fact YOU ARE part of the problem. For the time being this guy is "getting away with it". So far there have not been serious negative consequences for his actions. When those consequenses start piling up, then he might be more inclined to change his ways. Women who have drinking problems tend to seek out help in a hurry when they learn their children will be taken away. Negative consequences are a powerful motivational tool for almost anyone, at least I think so...