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I’m reading Die With Zero ***, as noted in another thread, and it brought me to this topic. We are not spending at a high enough rate, and I’ve always thought it was dumb to hold on to all the $ we can and then divvy up what’s left when we both go poof among my sister, our nieces & nephews (all on DW’s side) and our favorite charities. We don’t have kids ourselves. We’d like to give some now while they can use it, instead of waiting until we’re all older and it’ll most likely be a windfall to nieces & nephews.
So how do you give to nieces and nephews in a productive manner? We don’t want their parents (DW’s brother and sisters) to object or feel insulted. And we don’t want the nieces and nephews to come to expect our ongoing help. We don’t want to buy their affection either, we just want to help them make their way in the world while they’re still young adults. Trying to put ourselves in their shoes, if DW and I had received a substantial $ gift(s) from family when we were young adults, we’d probably have been suspicious and/or confused to be honest. Giving to charities while we’re alive is easy enough, but it doesn’t seem easy with family.
I’m sure some here have grappled with the question and come to some answers, but I don’t remember a thread on it.
*** It’s not a bad book, but any long time reader here will have heard all the ideas in the book many times. And it talks about people who save too much, and don’t spend enough - there may be quite a few here, but they’re few and far between in the general population.
So how do you give to nieces and nephews in a productive manner? We don’t want their parents (DW’s brother and sisters) to object or feel insulted. And we don’t want the nieces and nephews to come to expect our ongoing help. We don’t want to buy their affection either, we just want to help them make their way in the world while they’re still young adults. Trying to put ourselves in their shoes, if DW and I had received a substantial $ gift(s) from family when we were young adults, we’d probably have been suspicious and/or confused to be honest. Giving to charities while we’re alive is easy enough, but it doesn’t seem easy with family.
I’m sure some here have grappled with the question and come to some answers, but I don’t remember a thread on it.
*** It’s not a bad book, but any long time reader here will have heard all the ideas in the book many times. And it talks about people who save too much, and don’t spend enough - there may be quite a few here, but they’re few and far between in the general population.