SecondCor521
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Hi all.
I have three children: DS25, DS20, and DD18. All three have graduated from high school and are in the process of obtaining marketable college degrees.
They all have different money personalities, and they all are in the process of becoming self-sufficient in various ways and at various speeds.
I want to avoid EOC (economic outpatient care), probably for all the reasons outlined in the book (which I read a long time ago). I have a goal for all of my kids for them to be completely self-sufficient at some point.
I sort of see three categories at this point. I think there are necessities that parents should pay for up to a certain point. I think there are gifts that parents can give their kids. I think there is EOC that can happen.
I will stipulate that there is a variety of opinion on what items fall into which of those three categories and when. For me, I view all of the required things for an undergraduate degree as belonging in the first category as long as some basic criteria are met.
I think holiday presents are in the second category.
I'm not sure how to determine what falls in the EOC category, and I'd like to ask for guidance to determine whether something falls into that category or not. Again, given that there is family-to-family variability in what might be categorized as a necessity, gift, or EOC.
In my idealized and probably somewhat unrealistic world, I'd like this to be a three step process: 1. I'm responsible for all the basics through high school graduation. 2. When they're in college, I pay for the basics (tuition / fees / room / board / books / transportation) and they're responsible for everything else (pizza, beer, dates, clothes, car, cell phone). 3. Once they have a marketable undergrad degree, don't have any debt, and have some money in the bank - which is where my three are headed - they should be able to be 100% self-sufficient and I'm off the hook.
This has actually been working reasonably well with one exception: medical / health care while they're in college. I don't want them to be uninsured. But it's not directly related to college expenses. But I want them to make their own grown up choices. But if they choose to go uninsured and then have a major medical situation, I can't see me or their mother letting them go uncared for or possibly bankrupt.
Also, there's variability in their situations. The oldest's college doesn't care what he does. The middle one requires proof of health insurance and provides a SHIP program as a default unless you prove you have something else adequate. The youngest's school highly recommends it but doesn't provide any SHIP program.
I'm really interested in both (A) the broader question of EOC, and (B) how to treat college medical expenses in the context of EOC.
I have three children: DS25, DS20, and DD18. All three have graduated from high school and are in the process of obtaining marketable college degrees.
They all have different money personalities, and they all are in the process of becoming self-sufficient in various ways and at various speeds.
I want to avoid EOC (economic outpatient care), probably for all the reasons outlined in the book (which I read a long time ago). I have a goal for all of my kids for them to be completely self-sufficient at some point.
I sort of see three categories at this point. I think there are necessities that parents should pay for up to a certain point. I think there are gifts that parents can give their kids. I think there is EOC that can happen.
I will stipulate that there is a variety of opinion on what items fall into which of those three categories and when. For me, I view all of the required things for an undergraduate degree as belonging in the first category as long as some basic criteria are met.
I think holiday presents are in the second category.
I'm not sure how to determine what falls in the EOC category, and I'd like to ask for guidance to determine whether something falls into that category or not. Again, given that there is family-to-family variability in what might be categorized as a necessity, gift, or EOC.
In my idealized and probably somewhat unrealistic world, I'd like this to be a three step process: 1. I'm responsible for all the basics through high school graduation. 2. When they're in college, I pay for the basics (tuition / fees / room / board / books / transportation) and they're responsible for everything else (pizza, beer, dates, clothes, car, cell phone). 3. Once they have a marketable undergrad degree, don't have any debt, and have some money in the bank - which is where my three are headed - they should be able to be 100% self-sufficient and I'm off the hook.
This has actually been working reasonably well with one exception: medical / health care while they're in college. I don't want them to be uninsured. But it's not directly related to college expenses. But I want them to make their own grown up choices. But if they choose to go uninsured and then have a major medical situation, I can't see me or their mother letting them go uncared for or possibly bankrupt.
Also, there's variability in their situations. The oldest's college doesn't care what he does. The middle one requires proof of health insurance and provides a SHIP program as a default unless you prove you have something else adequate. The youngest's school highly recommends it but doesn't provide any SHIP program.
I'm really interested in both (A) the broader question of EOC, and (B) how to treat college medical expenses in the context of EOC.