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A home is more than a place to live .,..
Understand and point taken. While they could move into a small starter house with our help they could move into a home with more features and better neighborhood/schools. I wish my parents could have given us a nice gift to get into the home of our dreams, instead of us taking the longer/more expensive/more hassle route to finally get to where we originally wanted.
This entire topic seems completely foreign to me because my family just never does things like buy houses (or even down payments) for kids. In my family, we value independence, responsibility, and initiative highly. My parents never "helped" me via large gifts like this. I did get to take my clothes with me when I left home! That was all, though - - no college paid for, either, which made me angry and inspired me to get not one, but FOUR degrees without their help. There, I showed them! . Basically, in my family when you are 18 you are on your own. It's tough but it fosters a great sense of self confidence when you know you can survive and do well completely on your own.
Likewise I never "helped" my daughter by giving her a house or down payment (thus likely sapping her initiative to save for one on her own), although I did give her some minimal help with college expenses as long as she worked part time for the rest. She learned to LBYM and she is doing fine. Right now at age 42 she is saving to move up from her starter house (which is about like my house), to a nicer one.
I am not saying that this is what you should do, but just thought it might be interesting to mention different family cultures and attitudes towards these lavish gifts.
I have to disagree.Putting an offspring in something they otherwise couldn't afford is of course a soundly bad idea, as the MND based comments are saying, because of that keeping up with the Joneses aspect. But if my kids wanted to make a deal that would put them in a position to save more, rather than spend more, I'd go for that. The comment about loaning enough to get out of PMI, for instance, as long as that didn't expand the search to a higher priced house.
I have to disagree.
DD2 works hard plus drives Uber to make ends meet but still cant qualify for a mortgage. I have made peace with the fact she will never be a high or even medium earner. She still deserves to live in a safe neighborhood and the rent in a decent neighborhood is more than taxes and interest on a home. I see no harm in giving her part of her expected inheritance now instead of when she, hopefully, is 60.
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We would like to help our children get into a house of their own. They both have good jobs and are saving up. We are retired with what I believe is available 401k funds that could be used to help them get into a home. Right now this 401k money is about 30/70 so I know that Bonds/Cash are not doing the greatest. So thinking use some of the Bonds/Cash in real estate investment to get a better return.
So ... some options I have been brainstorming:
1) help with down payment/closing cost. Straight forward, helps the kids get into a home sooner than later. In my mind puts 401k Bond/Cash into a real estate investment so, while not helping our investment return, for the overall family it's a better use of the money.
2) do a seller finance mortgage. We basically become the mortgage company, charge a reasonable interest rate - and for right now that be better than bonds/cash. So an improvement .
3) now this is the one that I find intriguing as I have never venture into this and I think some folks on here have. We purchase a second home as a rental property investment, and have one of the children as our tenant paying reasonable rent. By my estimation, I can offset the income with interest payments, property tax, repairs, and depreciation. I believe this would reduce our overall tax bill (as rental income be less than all expenses) and we get real estate appreciation (vice Bonds/Cash from the 401k).
So .. appreciate any thoughts or experiences parents have done on here to help their kids. I have no worry about the kids paying rent or maintaining the house, they are good kids, just trying to help them out now rather than later when they inherit our estate.
Thanks
That's cool because as much as one may wish to generalize about how, in many circumstances, putting a low wage person in a mid wage neighborhood "causes" that person to spend more than they would have if they bought a house they could afford independently (as Millionaire Next Door posits), those are still generalizations.I have to disagree.
This entire topic seems completely foreign to me because my family just never does things like buy houses (or even down payments) for kids. In my family, we value independence, responsibility, and initiative highly. My parents never "helped" me via large gifts like this. I did get to take my clothes with me when I left home! That was all, though - - no college paid for, either, which made me angry and inspired me to get not one, but FOUR degrees without their help. There, I showed them! . Basically, in my family when you are 18 you are on your own. It's tough but it fosters a great sense of self confidence when you know you can survive and do well completely on your own.
Likewise I never "helped" my daughter by giving her a house or down payment (thus likely sapping her initiative to save for one on her own), although I did give her some minimal help with college expenses as long as she worked part time for the rest. She learned to LBYM and she is doing fine. Right now at age 42 she is saving to move up from her starter house (which is about like my house), to a nicer one.
I am not saying that this is what you should do, but just thought it might be interesting to mention different family cultures and attitudes towards these lavish gifts.
That's cool because as much as one may wish to generalize about how, in many circumstances, putting a low wage person in a mid wage neighborhood "causes" that person to spend more than they would have if they bought a house they could afford independently (as Millionaire Next Door posits), those are still generalizations.
I wouldn't do it for my kids, not because I think they'd spend more / save less by trying to keep up with the Joneses (they're both level-headed about spending and saving), but because I believe that it would be difficult to keep from comparing themselves to their better-off neighbors. Day in, day out, seeing little things that make them realize they've got a little less than their neighbors seems like it's not a healthy way to live.
Our younger son just closed on his first home at the end of July. He probably had enough money to do it on his own, but it would have taken nearly every dollar he had, with nothing left for any needed improvements.
I offered him a gift of $10k toward his closing costs, which he at first declined, then wanted only as a loan, but eventually accepted as a gift.
One cautionary note about loaning money to a child for their down payment. The mortgage company wanted to know the source of the $10k that they saw was deposited into his account. I had to sign paperwork stating that it was a gift and not a loan. They don’t want their borrowers taking out side loans for the down payment.