But I'm not bored, I'm longing for pals to have some laughs with during working hours - some social interaction. All my current hobbies that I do during the daytime are solitary.
I definitely experience some aloneness in ER but it is rather a good thing. As an introvert, I need plenty of alone time to recharge my batteries. But I rarely feel lonely. I briefly did after my post-ER divorce, as it was tough getting used to living alone again. But I cherish my bachelorhood now.
When you see folks sitting at the local coffee shop in the morning it isn't for the coffee IMHO. It's for the comraderie (think of it as a morning alternative to the bar) and soon enough you're sucked into a group for the banterPlease note - I'm lonely at times, not bored. And I do enjoy my own company.
But every now and then I need companionship .
I guess I'll just keep looking for volunteer opportunities.
When you see folks sitting at the local coffee shop in the morning it isn't for the coffee IMHO. It's for the comraderie (think of it as a morning alternative to the bar) and soon enough you're sucked into a group for the banter
For those of you who ERd before your spouse or those who are single and ERd, did you ever get lonely during the day? What, if anything, did you do about it?
When you see folks sitting at the local coffee shop in the morning it isn't for the coffee IMHO. It's for the comraderie (think of it as a morning alternative to the bar) and soon enough you're sucked into a group for the banter
Sure, it's a matter of balancing now and later, but not sure from the OP what is so bad about the current situation that you need to adjust it.
A family with young kids can enjoy totally fun local vacations. You need "insane" vacations with a one year old?
You need a new car; as opposed to a reliable car?
Wife is already getting to reduce her work schedule to spend more time with kids.
Not sure why eating out should cause stress now (other than the fact that you have young kids).
Also, I can't endorse not fully funding OP and spousal Roth; that will reap huge benefits in the future.
You want to play with the mortgage, not the end of the world.
The one thing I can understand is reducing OP's work schedule to spend more time with the kiddos, but I strongly suspect this can be done without dropping the Roths. You can also reduce the 529s when you are working 80 percent, and pick it up when you return full time.
The 33 year old you is important; but so is the 50 year old you.
But, your choice.