Texas Proud
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I've been saying this, earlier in the thread. I think we hear so many stories like this that we collectively start suffering "compassion fatigue". And so many people seem to need our help that we start "weeding them out" by assessing how "irresponsible" (according to our own definitions of responsibility) they were, and declining to assist those who don't pass that test.
I personally think we'd be a better society if there was a little more humility, a little more "there but for the grace of God go I" feeling out there, that people would realize that very few people have 100% bulletproofed their own lives and finances, and that a bad break can undermine even the best laid plans. We need to stop pretending it can't happen to us, in other words. Try as we might, our preparation and decision-making isn't so perfect that we're immune.
A nice post.... but I will hone in on the person's definition of "irresponsible" that you mentioned... to me, that is the key...
Say you had a relative who made $500K per year... and spent it all and more... then the $500K stopped for whatever reason.... they are hard up and now need your help... and it is not a small amount to you... are you willing to help I think not many people would...
And say that they continue to do the same thing over and over again (like the gambling SIL).... are you going to help I think not many people would....
Every time you help someone, it is through your own filtering system.... some people weed out more than others... it does not make them less compassionate IMO...