You could just say "personal reasons", with a bit of mystery and furtiveness in the voice, perhaps a raise of the eyebrows and a sideways glance.
Option 2: "the time was right for me."
You could just say "personal reasons", with a bit of mystery and furtiveness in the voice, perhaps a raise of the eyebrows and a sideways glance.
I'm not retired, but when I do I plan to answer "portfolio manager." Of course the only portfolios I am managing are mine and my partner's.One year I confessed my nervousness to my husband. He told me that if anyone asked me what I did, I should say, "I do whatever I want to do."
It's a good story and well worth the time to read. An overdue thanks for your service.Sorry for the long story.
Excellent.Option 2: "the time was right for me."
Since that time, I've heard the "Thanks for your service" line innumerable times, and I always respond with "Thanks for your support."
Please don't ever fault people when they say something like this. I think it just means that they recognize the sacrifice that military people make for the common benefit. In other words, it's not just lip service. Of course, it should be applied to a lot of others as well (police, firefighters, medical personnel, etc.) and I wish there were a simple, graceful way to deal with it. While some people don't realize that most of us actually enjoyed what we did, we can easily forget that when they thank us, they usually mean it.
Sorry for the long story.
I’m a physician and retiring in February, 2020 at age 49. Most people that I tell just can’t wrap their head around me wanting to retire early. When they ask why, I tell them that I simply lost interest, in being a physician, which is true. “Physician” was always something that I did, like “mechanic”, “accountant”, or “sanitation worker”. I never felt like it defined who I am as a person.
When you meet someone and get around to the "What do you do?" question. Its most often a weekday and DW has gone out for some daytime activity. The questioner is always older than DW by a decade or more, and usually another woman.
Just to offer another perspective, I was one of those Vietnam vets who got "the treatment" when I came back. Yes, it hurt, but I'm pretty resilient and never had to deal with the PTSD issues that so many others did.
Anyway, I had never heard this "Thanks for your service" line during the next few decades. My first encounter with it was in 2010 when I was in Vermont. I walked out of the motel I was in and as I opened my car door I notice a guy walking straight toward me. He said "I saw your license plate and I just wanted to say "Welcome home."
It took me a few seconds to process that and understand what he was saying, and then I suddenly found tears running down my cheeks. It was quite a moment, and I'll never forget it.
Since that time, I've heard the "Thanks for your service" line innumerable times, and I always respond with "Thanks for your support."
Please don't ever fault people when they say something like this. I think it just means that they recognize the sacrifice that military people make for the common benefit. In other words, it's not just lip service. Of course, it should be applied to a lot of others as well (police, firefighters, medical personnel, etc.) and I wish there were a simple, graceful way to deal with it. While some people don't realize that most of us actually enjoyed what we did, we can easily forget that when they thank us, they usually mean it.
Sorry for the long story.
I'm not retired, but when I do I plan to answer "portfolio manager." Of course the only portfolios I am managing are mine and my partner's.
Great story.
I never served in the military. But I’m honestly grateful and admire those that have. It is awkward to say ‘Thanks for your service’. But mostly cause of reading comments from vets where they think it’s cheesy or disingenuous. But what else can be said in most situations?
For me, it’s to the point like many things these days. Better to just say nothing for fear of offending. Although I do still say it to vets on occasions cause I just can’t help myself.
I can understand if you wish Vietnam vets got more thanks.For myself, I get annoyed by the "thank you for your service" mantra that is heaped on the veterans nowadays. When I'm on my toes, I reply that they should thank a Vietnam Vet, because they got the shaft when they returned to the U.S.
Maybe folks could just learn to turn the other cheek, rather than have to come up with a snappy reply.Maybe there is a similar reply for my DWs situation that isn't as snarky as, "Well don't you wish you could retire too?"
Well, I have learned over the years to try and ascribe a good or positive thought/feeling behind what people say rather than a bad or negative thought/feeling. It makes for a much more pleasant life. They are probably just not expressing themselves well. Just shrug your shoulders and go on with your life. I doubt any true malice is intended by these poorly worded questions.
Congratulations to you for your accomplishments. And I hope you have it in your heart to give back like my oncologist friend that has been on 58 mission trips out of the U.S. His last trip was to northern Brazil where he had to be approved by a tribe's medicine man who had never met a white man. They saw 600 patients in one week. You guys are still needed in this world.
I don't think anybody who has made it to retirement is obligated to "give back" anything. They most likely have already been "giving" for years on their job. You've earned your retirement, enjoy it!
. I can't understand why you would get annoyed by the current custom of "thanks for your service". I wish people in all sorts of professions were more appreciated for working hard and doing a good job. There's nothing wrong with working and with working hard.
For myself, I get annoyed by the "thank you for your service" mantra that is heaped on the veterans nowadays. When I'm on my toes, I reply that they should thank a Vietnam Vet, because they got the shaft when they returned to the U.S.
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Maybe I wasn't descriptive enough in the OP, but this is the sentiment that is most annoying... (as DW just emphatically exclaimed)
When is it ok for the doctor / nurse / etc. to be done? Do they have to work until they can't anymore (because the need will never go away.)?
Your wife doesn't owe a darn thing to anyone, and she shouldn't be expected to "give back" or give more than she has already given in her nursing career.
My niece is a nurse; I worked as a ward clerk in a hospital a lifetime ago and got to know many nurses; and last year I saw up close and personal the selfless devotion and compassion of the oncology nurses who were taking care of me and countless other patients month after month. As another poster said, it is an exhausting career in countless ways. I hope your wife enjoys her retirement, and she owes no one an explanation for how she chooses to spend her time from this point forward!
For any others out there that get comments like this, especially if you worked in a medical field, or teaching, or similar professional service type field... how do you react?
Thanks
Just to offer another perspective, I was one of those Vietnam vets who got "the treatment" when I came back. Yes, it hurt, but I'm pretty resilient and never had to deal with the PTSD issues that so many others did.
Anyway, I had never heard this "Thanks for your service" line during the next few decades. My first encounter with it was in 2010 when I was in Vermont. I walked out of the motel I was in and as I opened my car door I notice a guy walking straight toward me. He said "I saw your license plate and I just wanted to say "Welcome home."
It took me a few seconds to process that and understand what he was saying, and then I suddenly found tears running down my cheeks. It was quite a moment, and I'll never forget it.
Since that time, I've heard the "Thanks for your service" line innumerable times, and I always respond with "Thanks for your support."
Please don't ever fault people when they say something like this. I think it just means that they recognize the sacrifice that military people make for the common benefit. In other words, it's not just lip service. Of course, it should be applied to a lot of others as well (police, firefighters, medical personnel, etc.) and I wish there were a simple, graceful way to deal with it. While some people don't realize that most of us actually enjoyed what we did, we can easily forget that when they thank us, they usually mean it.
Sorry for the long story.