I left the field seven years ago when I "retired" a year ahead of my poorly planned escape. I'd spent 14 hours on a call helping fix a client's DB on a rare work from home day. My office was open to the rest of the house and DW got to hear the nonsense. Especially when my VP decided, without any information, this was a hardware problem and why hadn't I called in the vendor?
That night I saw in my wife's eyes I never wanted to. I knew my job was full of things some technical some emotional but it was becoming more insane and it was hurting her! I saw fear and anxiety in her eyes and I knew I could change that. Working for a paycheck was optional. I gave my notice a few weeks later.
We didn't have the assets you do. It is a personal choice, perhaps only second to when is the best time to start SS.
I wish you the best and to find where you stop the merry-go-round. It stops irregardless if you give permission or not.
ETA: I said poorly planned because it was. I wish I had the advice @Midpack gave you. For me it was a process not an event. There's a number of great things that can happen post retirement. Me I lost 70 pounds and a bunch of prescription medications. My BP is normal now, I sleep the best I ever have. DW is down 50 pounds we walk daily and before Covid-19 were at the gym 3-4x weekly.