I am newly retired, and DW still works. While I have given her my blessing to retire if she wants, secretly, I am glad she's still working. I'm 62, she's 58, and every year she chooses to work is that much less we have to take from the nut in terms of WR. Ideally, if she could keep working until 62 and take her SS, I'd be into my Medicare years.
She professes to feel no resentment, and to try to keep it that way I do all of the housework, laundry, shopping, cooking, etc etc so that when she is not working she can relax. Unfortunately, what has happened is that her sister has become gravely ill, and she has an aging mom and aunt she has to keep an eye on, so when she's not working she is almost always dealing with issues related to them.
If she bags it, we'll be OK. I'd rather have her bag it than be resentful. And we'll have winters to do what we want, together, south and warm...so ...
my advice to the retired half is to do at least one thing a day that is helpful to the other person while they are at work. Don't let them come home to discover you just played all day.
She professes to feel no resentment, and to try to keep it that way I do all of the housework, laundry, shopping, cooking, etc etc so that when she is not working she can relax. Unfortunately, what has happened is that her sister has become gravely ill, and she has an aging mom and aunt she has to keep an eye on, so when she's not working she is almost always dealing with issues related to them.
If she bags it, we'll be OK. I'd rather have her bag it than be resentful. And we'll have winters to do what we want, together, south and warm...so ...
my advice to the retired half is to do at least one thing a day that is helpful to the other person while they are at work. Don't let them come home to discover you just played all day.