retire@40
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Today I was blown away when my son asked me why his elementary school friend's dad was richer than me. I asked him what brought that question on. He said that his friend said his father drives an expensive car (I think a Mercedes), and he lives in a huge house with a huge lawn, a 3 car garage, a huge pool, and he just bought this huge TV that "takes up half the wall."
I had to explain that having all that stuff doesn't necessarily mean that someone is rich, but it does mean that they spend a lot. I said there is nothing wrong with having all that stuff if you are living within your means and that's what makes you happy, but that material things don't make me as happy as spending quality time with my family. I told him it's great to make lots of money, but it's not great to worship money.
What I couldn't tell my son is that I know from his friend's father's ex-wife that he's living paycheck to paycheck, he's in debt up to his eyeballs, behind 2 years on his tax returns, lost his job and cashed out his entire retirement plan at age 40 and paid a 10% penalty, and also just paid a few thousand dollars for his girlfriend's new boob job. And, it's too bad that my son's friend can only enjoy that huge TV on the weekends when he visits his father. And that's just the part I know.
I also didn't want to tell him just yet that I could pay cash for a lot of the things the other guy has (except for the house), but I think it's smarter to have the money saved for the future.
I asked my son if he minds our family situation with our 27" TV, 5-room home, average car, having dinner together every night with his mom and dad, and going on vacations together. He said no, asked if he could have one of his Halloween candies, and off he went to play with his toys.
I just hope my son grows up to realize for himself why his dad was actually richer than his friend's dad (and not from a monetary sense).
I had to explain that having all that stuff doesn't necessarily mean that someone is rich, but it does mean that they spend a lot. I said there is nothing wrong with having all that stuff if you are living within your means and that's what makes you happy, but that material things don't make me as happy as spending quality time with my family. I told him it's great to make lots of money, but it's not great to worship money.
What I couldn't tell my son is that I know from his friend's father's ex-wife that he's living paycheck to paycheck, he's in debt up to his eyeballs, behind 2 years on his tax returns, lost his job and cashed out his entire retirement plan at age 40 and paid a 10% penalty, and also just paid a few thousand dollars for his girlfriend's new boob job. And, it's too bad that my son's friend can only enjoy that huge TV on the weekends when he visits his father. And that's just the part I know.
I also didn't want to tell him just yet that I could pay cash for a lot of the things the other guy has (except for the house), but I think it's smarter to have the money saved for the future.
I asked my son if he minds our family situation with our 27" TV, 5-room home, average car, having dinner together every night with his mom and dad, and going on vacations together. He said no, asked if he could have one of his Halloween candies, and off he went to play with his toys.
I just hope my son grows up to realize for himself why his dad was actually richer than his friend's dad (and not from a monetary sense).