Hey guys,
Long time no post on here. Hope everyone is well.
I've been staying the course of working hard , being frugal, investing, etc., and I think that I am in a very good place at 27. I found my groove a couple years ago and it's been on autopilot since then.
I do have an issue though, and that's in dealing with others my age, specifically my colleagues at work. I'm in a well paying line of work in a major city, and have been since out of college. Our annual raises are very generous as well. So while most of my colleagues get there raise and move into a fancier apartment, buy a new car, designer clothes, steak dinners, etc., I simply invest more, but I don't talk about it, and clearly, don't have new things to show for.
So, I'm the black sheep here. I don't really fit in with many in my age group. My peers have been trying to figure me out for quite some time, but I didn't think that it would be prudent to say that I save everything, have at least 100x more than you do, and plan on jumping ship early. So I've resorted to giving them the vague version of it, that I'm saving for a down payment (which I am), and I discuss many other interests that I pursue in my free time, which does shock some of them. Some are true, some are fabricated (to get them off my back).
Everyone I work with has money as we have a good income, but the thing is, many of them hang out together and spend all of it. I don't really hang out with them (few times), as they always go out to eat at fancy restaurants, bars (dropping $100-200 in one night is not unusual), etc. I can't justify going out with them when they blow everything, plus, when I leave work, my free time is my free time, no? Nobody hassles the older folks about this, but being young and single, it's like 'um, what do you do in your free time if you're not with us?'
It's frustrating to deal with. I like what I do for work. I like the income and I save it. But I don't like the culture of most. I am good friends with a few who are more practical, and at least one colleague who is a young dreamer and looking to FIRE. It's very common to be in your 20s and blow it all, but here I am at 27 with well over 100k and I'm planning out where to be at 30 then 35, etc. With that said, most think that I am an old man because of my planning and discipline.
Have others here experienced this? Can anyone offer some advice on how to deal with it? It's not the largest issue in the world, but it's frustrating because I am not honest with them, and it's like they cannot see my way of thinking, sans the other young dreamer that I work with. They think that I am weird (which is fine), but I don't want to tell them that they're dumb, I don't want to spend money like crazy, most I don't want to hang out with outside of work (I can't say this to be mean), and I plan on living a life how I want to live in 1-2 decades, without work.
Long time no post on here. Hope everyone is well.
I've been staying the course of working hard , being frugal, investing, etc., and I think that I am in a very good place at 27. I found my groove a couple years ago and it's been on autopilot since then.
I do have an issue though, and that's in dealing with others my age, specifically my colleagues at work. I'm in a well paying line of work in a major city, and have been since out of college. Our annual raises are very generous as well. So while most of my colleagues get there raise and move into a fancier apartment, buy a new car, designer clothes, steak dinners, etc., I simply invest more, but I don't talk about it, and clearly, don't have new things to show for.
So, I'm the black sheep here. I don't really fit in with many in my age group. My peers have been trying to figure me out for quite some time, but I didn't think that it would be prudent to say that I save everything, have at least 100x more than you do, and plan on jumping ship early. So I've resorted to giving them the vague version of it, that I'm saving for a down payment (which I am), and I discuss many other interests that I pursue in my free time, which does shock some of them. Some are true, some are fabricated (to get them off my back).
Everyone I work with has money as we have a good income, but the thing is, many of them hang out together and spend all of it. I don't really hang out with them (few times), as they always go out to eat at fancy restaurants, bars (dropping $100-200 in one night is not unusual), etc. I can't justify going out with them when they blow everything, plus, when I leave work, my free time is my free time, no? Nobody hassles the older folks about this, but being young and single, it's like 'um, what do you do in your free time if you're not with us?'
It's frustrating to deal with. I like what I do for work. I like the income and I save it. But I don't like the culture of most. I am good friends with a few who are more practical, and at least one colleague who is a young dreamer and looking to FIRE. It's very common to be in your 20s and blow it all, but here I am at 27 with well over 100k and I'm planning out where to be at 30 then 35, etc. With that said, most think that I am an old man because of my planning and discipline.
Have others here experienced this? Can anyone offer some advice on how to deal with it? It's not the largest issue in the world, but it's frustrating because I am not honest with them, and it's like they cannot see my way of thinking, sans the other young dreamer that I work with. They think that I am weird (which is fine), but I don't want to tell them that they're dumb, I don't want to spend money like crazy, most I don't want to hang out with outside of work (I can't say this to be mean), and I plan on living a life how I want to live in 1-2 decades, without work.