We are considering a move to Florida. We do not have friends or family there. Anyone moved somewhere and had to start a new life in their 50s/ 60s? How difficult was it to make friends/ acquaintances?
Any and all advice appreciated.
I love all these moving/relo threads! Does it seem like folks are interested than usual
I was reluctant to move in part because I had lived all my life in the city where I grew up. I never considered myself especially outgoing, although DW is much better, and worried about making new friends if we moved someplace new.
One day, a friend surprised us by commenting that we are so outgoing that we could make friends anywhere. We knew that he was probably right.
I realized that I had known all the people that were presently close to me for only a handful of years, except for DW. I had been growing into a new set of friends all my life, with the friend group partially changing with circumstances. A few friendships endured, but most were supplanted with life changes like new jobs, churches, hobbies, or moving, even to just a different part of town. Different friends for different seasons, although a few have persisted through several seasons.
Anyway, we suddenly moved to SE AZ to escape the 6+ months of cold and dark northern winters. We picked a new church and enrolled in their 4 week intro class, picking up 2 friends in the process, fortunately just before covid. Another week, several church clubs were recruiting members. We joined a club and over a few more weeks gained a couple of more friends.
In our neighborhood, we try to be friendly and make a little small talk. We now know most of our neighbors, one of whom watches our house when we are away. Another invited us to his son's big birthday bash at the community center, the last big party we attended before covid broke.
Equally surprising, we have deepened our friendships with a few from the Frozen North. We yak with a few on the phone regualarly. A handful are coming to visit us to escape winter for a week or so. We even have a couple booked for the fall!
Oh, we're in a regular all-ages generic suburban subdivision and we have friends of all ages, both neighors and through church. We'd have even more if we were even more proactive and were not covid-constrained. Moving to SE AZ has been a huge positive both for friendships and our outdoor-centric passions.