Also too extreme for me. First, I actually liked my work and it occasionally paid for travel to some pretty sweet places. Second, DH was 15 years older. I wanted to enjoy some of the $$ along the way.
Fortunately, we agreed on so many things. Rarely ate out, bought used cars, didn't hire out stuff we could DIY (mowing the lawn, cleaning the house, minor repairs). Spent little on clothing other than my business wardrobe. No credit card debt. Ah, but we traveled. We were careful and points from my business travel helped, but we stayed in decent hotels and had some good excursions. Dinner was usually something from local markets enjoyed in the room with a bottle of wine.
I also chose to send DS to a military boarding school for HS when he was falling through the cracks in the public school system and paid for his college. When I was fretting over the cost of HS and what it would do to my retirement, DH, who was then close to being my fiance, said, "How are you going to feel if you have a comfortable retirement but DS never finds a direction and you wonder if you could have done more?" DH was a smart man. I'm very proud of what DS accomplished after he straightened up.
Sometimes you gotta let loose the purse strings and enjoy life.
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