Dang, the kid has a job. Count your blessings! The crack pipe comment was along my line of thinking. I'd be more annoyed at myself for not having a defined plan for the access card.
Rather ironic, no?
Some of us are willing to cut the kid some slack - he's a teenage boy, inexperienced in the workforce. Yes, it sounds like what he did was wrong, but he likely just needs some coaching. IMO, this should be turned into a calm teaching moment, not a gasket-blowing rant. One will be much more constructive than the other.
OTOH, a grown adult isn't keeping track of his access card? Maybe the son should blow a gasket towards his Dad's irresponsible behavior!
Reminds me of a cube-mate I once had. He could do some pretty decent engineering work, but in many ways was extremely clueless. One morning, after he forgot his access card yet again, he actually turned to me, and very seriously said
"ERD50, how do you remember to bring your access card to work?". It was tough to think of something to say that wasn't condescending ("Act like an adult?"), I think I just said I drop it off with my keys in the same place every day, and I can't leave w/o my keys, so it works for me.
Yes, habitually forgetting is different from a one time misplacing, but I still think it is a little funny.
Another comment on somewhat clueless teens. I recall my Dad yelling at me for this or that, and at the time I just thought it was his somewhat-hard-ass attitude - just griping at me. It wasn't until long afterwards that I realized he was trying to teach me something. There was a lesson in his griping. But I didn't hear it at the time. And he wasn't good enough at communicating or relating to a teen to say something like
"You really need to do this or don't do that, because other people will interpret that behavior in a certain way, and your life will be easier and you'll get further, faster if you can leave a positive impression on them".
If only I had a mentor like that early on in life. I truly believe my Dad tried, he just didn't know how. And I kinda regret that I wasn't able to see it at the time. I only heard griping and put-downs.
-ERD50