In my last year before retiring and 64yo. I find myself drinking way too much ... often killing a bottle, or more, of wine after work at night.
My elder parents are taking up much of my energy and the stress level I feel has a lot to do with it.
I really need to cut back on drinking and need some inspiration.
Any good advice? ... success stories?
Thx.
Let me preface what I am about to say by revealing I'm an alcoholic who has not had alcohol since July 2005. The compulsion to drink (and it was BAD) has been completely removed. I was a daily drinker, drinking at least a 12-pack of beer daily
Began my drinking career in 1978. I will share how I got sober.
AA is where I got sober. I tried about 3 treatment programs beforehand, but to no avail. AA was "the last house on the block," and I am glad I found it!
First, only you can determine if you are alcoholic, or have a drinking problem; no one else can. If you do decide to attend an AA meeting to help you decide if you are "one of us," select an open Big Book study or "step" meeting. Open meetings are for Alcoholics AND those who think they may be alcoholic or those who are just curious about AA (as opposed to a "closed" meetings that are only for those who have dermined they are alcoholic). Don't attend an open discussion AA meeting, where in my opinion, everyone there complains about their problems. Stick to a Big Book or Step meeting and you will be able to determine fairly soon if this is the place you belong.
After attending a meeting or two and if you decide to give AA an honest try, please ask someone of the same gender who has good sobriety to be your sponsor. The sponsor's role is to guide you through working the 12-steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. The AA steps are about a way of living that is so fulfilling that the desire to drink leaves us. We begin this journey by admitting our powerless over alcohol and that our life is unmanageable, then coming to believe that a power greater than ourselves (not God in the religious sense, but your definition of a higher power in the spiritual sense) can take away our insanity (the compulsion to drink), then we turn our will (thoughts) and life (actions) over to the care of that higher power (or to the care of our sponsors), we admit the wrongs we have done to others (alcoholics carry a lot of guilt), we right the wrongs we have done to others, and among other things, we try to help other alcoholics.
I'll close by saying that in AA, many of us who have recovered think we are the luckiest people on Earth because we have a program that brings us peace and serenity, one that guides is to do the right things on a daily basis and one that is about living life on life's terms, a program non-alcoholics don't have. AA actually has very little to do with "not drinking", but is a program that teaches how to live life to its fullest and how to be a happy, honest, helpful caring, and member of society.