Stormy Kromer
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OK,
I have a situation that I shouldn't whine about, but it troubles me.
DW and I have 2 kids. We gave each of them $80K to get trough college. DS is the oldest, he went to tech school and is a very accomplished diesel mechanic. He didn't need all of his 80K and we gave him the rest to buy a house. Great guy, doing well.
DD is also a great person. Went to tech school out of High School, got a degree in Pharm tech and made a modest living, realized she wanted more and went to get a 4 year degree which she will finish this year at the same time her $80 grand runs out. 4 year degree with no debt at all.
All is great....
She wants to pursue a degree in Dentist School. I couldn't be more proud but I can't afford it. I see that the average Dentist graduate has loans of around $400,000.
I got her through a 4 year degree which is all I ever planned on. I don't want to quash her ability and tell her I can't afford to help her anymore. But I can't. If I did I would be taking out of deep reserve from out retirement fund which she would likely inherit anyway...
I'm proud of her, but I don't know if I can afford to help her reach her dreams.
I ask you on this forum, only if you have been in this situation. How far should I promise help as a parent. Keep in mind we have another child who has received the same help to date and doesn't need help anymore.
Myself....I grew up on a farm with depression era parents and was glad I got to finish High School. I had $212 when I left home on my own in 1984. I want what I can give my children without spoiling them or tanking our ER.
Can you believe Dental School costs $400K ( in state, $600 out of state) ? I've checked. it's real
She's smart and has a chance to reach her dream to be a Dentist. I don't want her to remember me as the old guy (56) that wouldn't help her when she needed it and die and leave a pile of money after I die and she doesn't need it...I just don't have the cash flow to help her not and ensure my FIRE.
I didn't plan on graduate school when I was saving for her 529. I'f glad she could get a 4 year degree without debt. I give her credit she worked all through school to help with living expenses.
. We did cover all her tuition.
w
Only if you've been there.....How do you handle a child's graduate schools' cost ? Again... please only of you've been there with other children in the picture.
Thanks everyone.
I have a situation that I shouldn't whine about, but it troubles me.
DW and I have 2 kids. We gave each of them $80K to get trough college. DS is the oldest, he went to tech school and is a very accomplished diesel mechanic. He didn't need all of his 80K and we gave him the rest to buy a house. Great guy, doing well.
DD is also a great person. Went to tech school out of High School, got a degree in Pharm tech and made a modest living, realized she wanted more and went to get a 4 year degree which she will finish this year at the same time her $80 grand runs out. 4 year degree with no debt at all.
All is great....
She wants to pursue a degree in Dentist School. I couldn't be more proud but I can't afford it. I see that the average Dentist graduate has loans of around $400,000.
I got her through a 4 year degree which is all I ever planned on. I don't want to quash her ability and tell her I can't afford to help her anymore. But I can't. If I did I would be taking out of deep reserve from out retirement fund which she would likely inherit anyway...
I'm proud of her, but I don't know if I can afford to help her reach her dreams.
I ask you on this forum, only if you have been in this situation. How far should I promise help as a parent. Keep in mind we have another child who has received the same help to date and doesn't need help anymore.
Myself....I grew up on a farm with depression era parents and was glad I got to finish High School. I had $212 when I left home on my own in 1984. I want what I can give my children without spoiling them or tanking our ER.
Can you believe Dental School costs $400K ( in state, $600 out of state) ? I've checked. it's real
She's smart and has a chance to reach her dream to be a Dentist. I don't want her to remember me as the old guy (56) that wouldn't help her when she needed it and die and leave a pile of money after I die and she doesn't need it...I just don't have the cash flow to help her not and ensure my FIRE.
I didn't plan on graduate school when I was saving for her 529. I'f glad she could get a 4 year degree without debt. I give her credit she worked all through school to help with living expenses.
. We did cover all her tuition.
w
Only if you've been there.....How do you handle a child's graduate schools' cost ? Again... please only of you've been there with other children in the picture.
Thanks everyone.
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