I have been cautioned over three years ago that with my deteriorating discs and vertebrae misalignment that surgery would more than likely an eventuality, and the time has come. In going over my personal history; jumping out of airplanes, working construction in my youth, riding motorcycles and playing a boat load of golf, and probably a lifetime of using poor back mechanics, I'm fortunate my back has held up as well as it has.
Yeah, I get it. Sounds like you have done your diligence. I totally understand about deterioration. A lot of people who only have had severe muscle strain issues cannot fathom what it is like to have stenosis due to bone spurs and injury, disc deterioration (causing compression), etc. Back pain due to muscle strain is a totally different animal. It is one reason they put us through this protocol, to weed those cases out.
Sounds like you are ready. If you are like me, you get to a point where you don't care what people say about all the things that could go wrong. I wasn't living anymore. I was barely existing. If it went bad, it would have just been a different kind of bad.
I'll probably be up for fusion in about 10 years too. I have changed my behavior somewhat to avoid some of the things you mention. I really limit the shock to my spine.
We learned that it is important to take enough time for healing. Do not try to do too much too early. And don't try to force it.
This is very important. +1
In my case, Doc said "Resume normal activity at 6 weeks." Well, I was very, very careful. I eased into it at that point (bike riding, swimming, home improvement). I didn't lift anything heavier than 15lbs for 6 months. I didn't do anything really heavy for 1 year. And to this day, there are many things I won't do, period. Example: lift a new 5 gallon pail of paint.
During those first 6 weeks, I didn't lift anything heavier than 1/2 gal of milk, and only at chest level. I used my grabber for everything these 6 weeks with almost no bending.
I believe this helped me a lot. I got plenty of exercise mostly in the form of walking. I literally walked 1 house more per day up and down the block. My first day after surgery was only 2 houses.
Be careful. Don't "Tiger Wood's It". Tiger was my inspiration to what not to do. He came back from laminectomy/discectomy way, way too fast. After that fiasco, he went a different route and had an ALIF. After the ALIF, he finally took the proper time, nearly a year.
BTW, ALIF is the ultimate surgery for us. Not sure if you discussed it with the surgeon. It is worth a discussion at least. It kind of scares the crap out of me because they operate from your front/side, and have to potentially move your descending aorta or vena cava (don't criticize, I'm not a doctor) and that just scares the crap out of me.