i usually just eat some chocolate or go out on the town for some incredible sex.
Ah, the solace of food. For a long, long time I unconciously used food as a coping strategy. Might have something to do with the fact that I haven't weighed under 300 pounds in over 20 years. I was actually down to 302 right before the allegations. Up to 378 last year. Down to 325 before Mom's problems started in June. Currently 338 and searching desperately for sufficient self-motivation to start a steady workout schedule again. i have come to understand and accept that sort of over-eating is as self-destructive as alcoholism for me. Personally, I like your other suggestion, but I think my DW might have some objections.
What helped me most was meditation and exercise....fathers never think that any man is good enough for their daughter.
I am trying to stick to a commitment to start a workout schedule beginning this Friday, right after Thanksgiving. Four days a week, right before assuming duty. We have a fairly nice training center with showers on site, and it's free. I want to try to incorporate meditation, and possibly yoga, into the other three days.
As for the WSIL, I am quite certain they both know exactly how I feel about him. In actuality, I rather liked the one she was living with before this lazy out of work bum. A fellow Airman, intelligent, ambitious, and an equal contributor to their life style. LOL, it really floored them that I didn't have any objections at all, not even to them living together "out of wedlock". I like being inscrutable.
I find splitting firewood works well...when that's not an option I use construction...I guess its something about the wood and physical exertion.
If only I had a wood stove. I rather miss the satisfaction of seeing a day's efforts stacked outside the back door. (didn't seem attractive when I was 17 though) I hope to build a small yard shed (either 10x15 or 12x16) before deep winter hits. And over the course of the winter I want to strip our bedroom to the studs, re-wire, and re-insulate it all before puttting up new drywall. There is an undeniable satisfaction in viewing the fruits of one's own labor.
I think I'm going to take some of my own advice to W2R and use some of my accrued sick leave. I'm going to schedule my counseling sessions for either my Monday or my Friday and thereby have at least 6 consecutive three-day weekends.
Thank you all for your kind words of support.