my entire package buddy and i were a little nutz and so we used to pick some new friends off the seawall. no joke. most of these people were without money and were just hanging out, dreaming of being on a yacht one day. well, we made their dreams come true and some of those people became good friends of ours.
my brother married a person who had no money and whose family had none either. plus she was a spender. to protect family wealth, my scared-for-him, practical-for-us parents insisted that for my brother to stay in the family business he had to have a prenup with her. over the years i have watched as she turned into a financially responsible, lovely person, who deeply loves my brother, does a great job with their kids and has been a wonderful dil to my long-dieing, alzheimer's-ridden mom. but then, i suppose, it's not every gold digger who will change your mother's diaper and clean her breasts. hey, gold digger doesn't sound so complimentary now, does it?
if i was of scientific mind, doing a documentary for pbs on the mating rituals of str8 people, i certainly would feature the female's nesting abilities. my chauvinistic point being, she might not just be a gold digger, she might be securing a secure future for her future kids, or even for herself, as if that were a terrible thing.
something is going to attract, on first sight, someone to you. it might be your karma or aura if you want to count on that, it might be your smile, it might be how you carry yourself.
here's an experiement you can try now that you're retired and have the time. hit the gym for a year, get yerself buff, hop in a ferrari you've leased for the night and drive up to a gaggle of women hanging outside of some nightclub and see how many you attract.
ok, now take a year and stuff your face and put on 50 lbs. don't shower or shave for a week, walk to a bar and see which chic is attracted to the inner you.
i'm not suggesting you have to play sugar daddy/mommy to anyone. i'm simply showing first how initial attraction does not necessarily become the core of a relationship, but, more importantly, i'm hoping to bring to light how we use all sorts of excuses to isolate ourselves from perceived dangers in the world. what a shame to let your fortune keep you from enjoying someone who seeks on first sight the very quality you've spent a lifetime achieving.
there's an old saying: putting your guard up will keep you safe, but letting your guard down will get you laid.