warrior.tony
Confused about dryer sheets
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- May 22, 2022
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Hey everyone. I recently broke up with my girlfriend of seven years, and had a question regarding our financial separation.
I came into the relationship with not much money, whereas she was more established with a house that earned rental income. We truly thought we were going to be together forever, and looked at out finances as one big pot that supported both of us.
As the years went on, we ended up getting into a big financial hole (as we both struggled to earn income as we transitioned careers). To help support us during this time, she ended up selling her home and walked away with a considerable surplus of around $250k. To help balance the financial disparity between us (as again I didn’t have much money), she ended up paying most of our bills in about a 2 year stretch from the pot of money she earned from her house sale, whereas I saved and invested all the money I earned during this period (I had almost around $50k saved/invested at the end of those 2 years).
Fast forward to today. As was the case for many couples, the pandemic really affected us negatively (along with a few other factors). We have decided to separate just a few months ago. She has now made it clear that I owe her the money that I was saving during the time of our relationship. I don’t fully feel this is right to rewind the clock and hit an undo button on the choices we made at the time.
Just wanted to get everyone’s opinions on this. How would you proceed if you were me?
I came into the relationship with not much money, whereas she was more established with a house that earned rental income. We truly thought we were going to be together forever, and looked at out finances as one big pot that supported both of us.
As the years went on, we ended up getting into a big financial hole (as we both struggled to earn income as we transitioned careers). To help support us during this time, she ended up selling her home and walked away with a considerable surplus of around $250k. To help balance the financial disparity between us (as again I didn’t have much money), she ended up paying most of our bills in about a 2 year stretch from the pot of money she earned from her house sale, whereas I saved and invested all the money I earned during this period (I had almost around $50k saved/invested at the end of those 2 years).
Fast forward to today. As was the case for many couples, the pandemic really affected us negatively (along with a few other factors). We have decided to separate just a few months ago. She has now made it clear that I owe her the money that I was saving during the time of our relationship. I don’t fully feel this is right to rewind the clock and hit an undo button on the choices we made at the time.
Just wanted to get everyone’s opinions on this. How would you proceed if you were me?