Retch The Grate
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I think I've mentioned before, my parents started giving my brother and I the max annual gift each year about 12 years ago. They are going to transfer their wealth to us when they die anyways, and they wanted to start doing it while they are around to enjoy how it helps us out.
My brother works in management consulting, has made a LOT of money. I've spent my career making video games and have not made anywhere near what he has (there have been years where his income was literally 5x mine, and I live in the SF Bay area and get paid decently, though not engineer level). The gift money I think was a nice little bit of fun money for him and his wife, and some help with cash when they needed a lump sum a number of years ago for their house. In contrast, the money really boosted my ability to comfortably save and invest more than just the 401k + Roth annual limit and was instrumental to me hitting FI, and then un-hitting it by buying a bay area house.
I think at this point my brother and I have roughly similar net worths, and we both seem to deeply appreciate our parents' generosity and have had our lives positively impacted by it. But we were both in our 30s, established in our careers and living our lives well and responsibly before our parents started giving on that scale. My parents seem to be happy about the impact they have on our life, in a "getting to enjoy their wealth" way, not a "controlling the kids" way.
It does seem to be a deeply "it depends on the kids" thing how it turns out.
My brother works in management consulting, has made a LOT of money. I've spent my career making video games and have not made anywhere near what he has (there have been years where his income was literally 5x mine, and I live in the SF Bay area and get paid decently, though not engineer level). The gift money I think was a nice little bit of fun money for him and his wife, and some help with cash when they needed a lump sum a number of years ago for their house. In contrast, the money really boosted my ability to comfortably save and invest more than just the 401k + Roth annual limit and was instrumental to me hitting FI, and then un-hitting it by buying a bay area house.
I think at this point my brother and I have roughly similar net worths, and we both seem to deeply appreciate our parents' generosity and have had our lives positively impacted by it. But we were both in our 30s, established in our careers and living our lives well and responsibly before our parents started giving on that scale. My parents seem to be happy about the impact they have on our life, in a "getting to enjoy their wealth" way, not a "controlling the kids" way.
It does seem to be a deeply "it depends on the kids" thing how it turns out.