retire48in2018
Recycles dryer sheets
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- Mar 12, 2008
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In our first year of retirement, we have spent months at our daughter (and husband). They have 2 kids less than a year apart - 2nd born a few months ago. Husband is now looking to improve his background with some online extensive, intense training. (4 weeks down, 4 weeks to go)
With 1 income, and 2 kids under 1.5 years old and with husband training (maybe 60 hours a week?) - we decided to help.
Originally the plan was to manage the 2 from 8am until 3 or 4. Then, one of us have evening off. DW and I would have at least one weekend day off.
Husband is very challenged to not have “personal” time. Our daughter sacrifices everything.
End result - we rarely are getting any time off, generally have to run to get stuff that runs out during week (milk, diapers, etc). Husband is active in the 60 hours/week - but chooses “personal time” - online game time or other activities when not in course - makes some attempts on soMe evenings.
Husband landing a job is our first wish - perhaps as a result of this training. They want to eventually have daughter homeschool kids. (We home schooled our kids until 7th grade). She would try to maintain some part tiMe hours and keep current with her skills during this tiMe.
We are tired. We don’t want to upset apple cart - by pushing back - as perhaps that sufficiently demotivates husband to get online training done.
There is not really another training method for his career path. To say he lacks ambition is a very understated.
So -maybe I am just venting. But this is not what we signed up for !
With 1 income, and 2 kids under 1.5 years old and with husband training (maybe 60 hours a week?) - we decided to help.
Originally the plan was to manage the 2 from 8am until 3 or 4. Then, one of us have evening off. DW and I would have at least one weekend day off.
Husband is very challenged to not have “personal” time. Our daughter sacrifices everything.
End result - we rarely are getting any time off, generally have to run to get stuff that runs out during week (milk, diapers, etc). Husband is active in the 60 hours/week - but chooses “personal time” - online game time or other activities when not in course - makes some attempts on soMe evenings.
Husband landing a job is our first wish - perhaps as a result of this training. They want to eventually have daughter homeschool kids. (We home schooled our kids until 7th grade). She would try to maintain some part tiMe hours and keep current with her skills during this tiMe.
We are tired. We don’t want to upset apple cart - by pushing back - as perhaps that sufficiently demotivates husband to get online training done.
There is not really another training method for his career path. To say he lacks ambition is a very understated.
So -maybe I am just venting. But this is not what we signed up for !