Westernskies
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Thanks for all of the advice....My high school girlfriend and I are getting very close again...I ended up moving in high school and a lot of stuff happened in between....I havent asked her yet but it is very much moving that way...maybe in a year or 2...
BTW, I guess I wouldnt be going into debt since I have never been married and late 30s and LBYM, but spending 20k is a major deal breaker for me, for sure...My impression is that it would be for her, too since she left megacorp a few years back for a lower paying job that is much more service oriented working with kids and is looking for a used Honda Civic right now since her existing one has almost bit the dust...
Congratulations ! - I married my old high school girlfriend twenty-five years later. We really tried to make things work then, but like a lot of kids, weren't able to sustain a long-distance relationship when I went away to college, and her family moved out of state. We ended up marrying other people- her marriage lasted 10 years, mine 16. I looked her up on a business trip (mutual friend was working on the high school reunion, and gave me her contact information) We got back together 7 years ago, both older, a lot wiser, and more appreciative of the relationship (how many people get a second chance?) than we were in our teens.
We just celebrated our 5th anniversary; when people ask how long we have been married I tell them 5 years- but it would have been 30 if she had said yes the first time.
Definitely take the time to re-establish the relationship. You are both different people than you were in your teens. But, if she is OK with LBYM, bacon, and FIRE, you may have grounds for a great relationship.
OBTW, I threw financial reason out the window and splurged on the ring- 1.67ct - but if I amortize the aforementioned 30 years against the current outcome, it turned out to be a great return on investment. Like I said, emotion trumps reason nearly every time.
All the Best to the both of you, and keep us posted!