KM
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If funds are limited, then I'd do #4.
Under NO circumstances would I ever consider #2!!!! [emoji15]
Under NO circumstances would I ever consider #2!!!! [emoji15]
This stopped working around the same time they did away with child labor laws, children stopped earning their keep and became a drag on family fortunes. If they hadn't done that, OP wouldn't have to deal with this challenge.I say give it all to the eldest son. If he dies, then the next oldest son. Worked for centuries.
OP here.
...I think I am leaning more toward $X/3 with an adjustment for inflation. ....
I'll have to work on my spreadsheet a little bit...
I say give it all to the eldest son. If he dies, then the next oldest son. Worked for centuries.
Updated my spreadsheet and had some interesting realizations:
1. Currently $X is enough to fund 8.86 semesters of 4-year-public-in-state-university-tuition-fees-room-board-books-travel-stipend, which is the yardstick I use, inflation adjusted for when they are anticipated to use the funds. Let's call these Units.
2. The money is in college accounts (529s and ESAs) so I can shift it around as needed. In theory, currently kid #3's accounts are overfunded by about $53K and kid #1's account is underfunded by about that same amount. I probably won't move the money because (a) kid #1 may not finish college for a while, (b) I'd have to move some again later; the accounts get out of whack over time due to various things, and (c) it biases my investments a little more aggressively because the 529s are all in age-based target-date-style investments.
3. Under the previous regime where each kid was funded according to their need, kid #1 was getting the shaft because he's frugal. He went to public high school through his senior year then went to an inexpensive online high school to finish. He then chose to go to an in-state-public-university-on-scholarship for a year which was basically free, then did another semester there and then dropped out to do the working+apartment thing. He's only spent 1.42 Units so far but has about half a 4-year degree done.
4. Because of kid #1's frugality and the "to-each-according-to-his-need" thing, kid #2 was getting an excess benefit. He is going to an expensive-but-necessary private high school which is very good for him and what he needs, but again very expensive - equivalent to about 4.97 Units.
I think I was a bit lucky in that I told kid #2 when he was contemplating the expensive private school that it could come from his college fund and that I might try to back fill but there were no guarantees. Kid #3 is now thinking about attending a different private high school for the next three years that would be about 2.5 Units. Offering her essentially the same deal that I offered to kid #2 would be essentially equivalent to the "inflation-adjusted-equal" approach I'm considering now.
OP, just a note-- what Starsky is suggesting is not likely to work. First of all, one cannot just file their own taxes to be considered "independent". To not be considered a dependent of you, your child would have to supply more than 50% of their own living expenses. Not many high school (none?) students can manage that.
Then, when it comes to financial aid, colleges consider the parents income and other resources until the student is married or age 26. Declaring "my kid is on their own, I'm not paying for college" is not the magic phrase to get them extra financial aid.
As to your question, I would give my financial support for higher education equally.
i have 4 older sisters, by the time i came along, 13 years their junior they were in high school, i would have gotten the whole thing. the kick is we all paid for our own college, the thought of my dad with his 10th grade education and him paying for our college and him working 7 days a week in his delicatessen never crossed our minds. i weakened the position, i paid for A's 100 % and 50 % for B's zero for C and D's. im sure if he has children he will pay for room, board, tuition, pocket money,car books, international travel etc, . i wont live to see the next generation after that , but im sure the position will weaken more, The reason i paid only paid for A's and B's is i didnt want to fund a party, or fund someone who wasn't college material, secondly i was a blue collar worker that maxed out at $961 a week pay after 26 years of work, im my mind paying for college was already going over the top. i didnt pay 10 cents for the time he wanted a car,i did console him when he crashed it a few weeks later and he took a total loss . sorry kid i needed to make sure mom is protected first , you get the excess.