ModestNestEgg
Recycles dryer sheets
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I didn't realize this thread was over a year old, but it looks like it is being revived.
In some ways, I can understand what the OP is going through even though I have a good bit longer to go before retirement than they do. It could end up easier to retire from a job if someone absolutely despises the job, or worse yet, the people around you than it is if both are at least moderately pleasant.
One way perhaps to reframe it is to look at it not so much as a departure, which feels like you are rejecting or "breaking up" with someone, but as a graduation. As much as you may love your grade school, high school, or college, it wouldn't make sense or be a mark of success to spend your entire life at that place and in that phase of your life. By moving on, you aren't sending the message to those that you are leaving that they are a failure. It's the direct opposite. Nor would it make sense if a doctor had cured you of a serious ailment and you kept going to that doctor when you didn't really need it. Both journeys were successful and you have people to thank along the way, but it is time to graduate and move on to a phase that those people and that situation hopefully prepared you to handle well.
The people you are leaving behind should see themselves as a success because they helped you get to where you are and still being in great spirits at the top of your game when you can move on to the next wonderful phase of your life in great spirits. They should realize that they were actually a positive influence on you in many ways, because not everyone is in a work setting. So they should feel uplifted by that.
In some ways, I can understand what the OP is going through even though I have a good bit longer to go before retirement than they do. It could end up easier to retire from a job if someone absolutely despises the job, or worse yet, the people around you than it is if both are at least moderately pleasant.
One way perhaps to reframe it is to look at it not so much as a departure, which feels like you are rejecting or "breaking up" with someone, but as a graduation. As much as you may love your grade school, high school, or college, it wouldn't make sense or be a mark of success to spend your entire life at that place and in that phase of your life. By moving on, you aren't sending the message to those that you are leaving that they are a failure. It's the direct opposite. Nor would it make sense if a doctor had cured you of a serious ailment and you kept going to that doctor when you didn't really need it. Both journeys were successful and you have people to thank along the way, but it is time to graduate and move on to a phase that those people and that situation hopefully prepared you to handle well.
The people you are leaving behind should see themselves as a success because they helped you get to where you are and still being in great spirits at the top of your game when you can move on to the next wonderful phase of your life in great spirits. They should realize that they were actually a positive influence on you in many ways, because not everyone is in a work setting. So they should feel uplifted by that.
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