Ronstar
Moderator Emeritus
DW and I had living wills, healthcare directives and POA's drawn up about 30 years ago. I'd like to update them.
We have no children. Executor is currently my BIL. I'd like to switch the executor to my niece (40 yo responsible adult) who I get along with better than my BIL. It makes no sense for us to have an executor / POA who is about our age and who is not in as good as shape as we are.
Question 1. Should I ask my niece if she is willing to take this on before I change the documents? Seems like I should.
Question 2. If she agrees, how much information should I share with her? She and my nephew are currently our beneficiaries and I have no plans to change beneficiaries. Do I tell her that her and her brother are beneficiaries?
Question 3. Should I ask her if she would be willing to do this in a phone call? Or should I take her and her husband to dinner and ask her there? In this case, her 3 kids ages 11, 7 and 2 would be there. Not sure if this discussion would freak the kids out.
We have no children. Executor is currently my BIL. I'd like to switch the executor to my niece (40 yo responsible adult) who I get along with better than my BIL. It makes no sense for us to have an executor / POA who is about our age and who is not in as good as shape as we are.
Question 1. Should I ask my niece if she is willing to take this on before I change the documents? Seems like I should.
Question 2. If she agrees, how much information should I share with her? She and my nephew are currently our beneficiaries and I have no plans to change beneficiaries. Do I tell her that her and her brother are beneficiaries?
Question 3. Should I ask her if she would be willing to do this in a phone call? Or should I take her and her husband to dinner and ask her there? In this case, her 3 kids ages 11, 7 and 2 would be there. Not sure if this discussion would freak the kids out.