Well, here's a cautionary tale of what NOT to do. MIL at 80 finally had to quit work (retail, on feet all day). Nothing but SS and maybe $10k. I was still working and we built an addition for her, lives basically on our dime. Basically a full time job for DW now. I retired fully about year ago, and we can't travel much (BIL will take on limited time frames). We have boocoodles of money budgeted for travel but are stuck. Her health declining, but moving her into a place other than here is a hurdle we can't seem to get over. She can bathe and feed herself but not prepare food and is subject to frequent falls even with walker.
The problem is where do you draw the line and place her elsewhere? I'm sympathetic and it's very difficult for DW. However, we're 62 (she's 88) and I have this creeping feeling that while we are in great health, our window of opportunity for travel is going to start to close. Watching her deteriorate is a constant reminder that robust health is not forever.
Kudos to the cultures where the elderly are revered and cared for by the family; I'm not sold. Definitely have no intention of placing this on either of our kids.
The problem is where do you draw the line and place her elsewhere? I'm sympathetic and it's very difficult for DW. However, we're 62 (she's 88) and I have this creeping feeling that while we are in great health, our window of opportunity for travel is going to start to close. Watching her deteriorate is a constant reminder that robust health is not forever.
Kudos to the cultures where the elderly are revered and cared for by the family; I'm not sold. Definitely have no intention of placing this on either of our kids.