calmloki
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I have obligations too. Funding my future retirement is my number one obligation. So I address my number one obligation first too. Then I pay bills. Then discretionary items come last. I'd rather miss a bill payment than to miss a retirement payment.
And there we differ. I can twist my head around to see that an obligation or promise to myself is more important than an obligation or promise to another, but it just doesn't work for me. Sounds like we are at different points in our lives though - my retirement is funded+ at this point, you are making sure your retirement gets funded.