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There should be no reason to "set boundaries" like this with friends. They shouldn't be asking, this shouldn't be an issue with normal people. Your friend is the issue.
My sister (still working, kids, errands and running around like crazy all the time) would not have asked like this. On the occasion that she has asked for help, it's been very gracious and with notice and very conscious that it's a favor. Even though she knows (I hope) I'd never say no.
Your friend really over imposed unless couched with tremendous up front apologies and begging (late night text the day before - not it). I would have pretended to not even see the text and therefore respond too late (since, you'd be sleeping in the next morning and not in a rush to check your phone right?).
I would not worry about any damage to the friendship based on this one push back. If there is any issue, she caused it, by showing you and your time zero respect. If she even brings up feeling wounded, prepare to let this one go, she is only going to keep pushing the limits and seems rather selfish from your examples.
Even the lunch you describe... she should have just rescheduled vs. you just bringing lunch to her house. But either way, you shouldn't have to set boundaries... so the next time she has a favor to ask...have your "No, sorry, can't" ready.
My sister (still working, kids, errands and running around like crazy all the time) would not have asked like this. On the occasion that she has asked for help, it's been very gracious and with notice and very conscious that it's a favor. Even though she knows (I hope) I'd never say no.
Your friend really over imposed unless couched with tremendous up front apologies and begging (late night text the day before - not it). I would have pretended to not even see the text and therefore respond too late (since, you'd be sleeping in the next morning and not in a rush to check your phone right?).
I would not worry about any damage to the friendship based on this one push back. If there is any issue, she caused it, by showing you and your time zero respect. If she even brings up feeling wounded, prepare to let this one go, she is only going to keep pushing the limits and seems rather selfish from your examples.
Even the lunch you describe... she should have just rescheduled vs. you just bringing lunch to her house. But either way, you shouldn't have to set boundaries... so the next time she has a favor to ask...have your "No, sorry, can't" ready.